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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
The Mixed Fruit of Self Awareness ...
The Mixed Fruit of Self Awareness ... (And it’s Benefits in a Relationship) Have you ever tried to talk to a person from a perspective of how you’d like things to be versus where you are with them in the current moment? It is hard to convince anyone that you are sincere if your actions stay consistent with the opposite. The struggle is to be honest about where you are at so that you can grow from that place of volnerability towards lasting connection. The mask of defenses and cognitive distortions can actually escalate our adversarial interactions rather than restoring them. Spoken in plain English, Don’t let being mad and defensive be the norm in your relationship, learn to be insightful and self reflecting. In fact, learning to see the parts of you compelled to deliver what you express instead of linearly exchanging a one sided cause and effect determinations for what is acceptable in your interactions. The blame is not all your partner’s fault.
By Calvin Smith5 years ago in Humans
Property Lines
When we hear the word "boundaries", it generally has a fairly negative connotation for most people. We tend to relate it to situations or emotions that involve fear, or a need to protect something, or the thought that one has been crossed, resulting in something negative. Of course, these things do occur all the time. But there is a flip side to establishing boundaries that is not only a positive thing when done the right way, it is NECESSARY for sustaining healthy relationships in one's life!
By Ashley Koepp5 years ago in Humans
Catching fucking feels.
I was asked to write about the difference between lust and love. And I am flattered you think I am an expert on such matters, I really am. While the initial answer may seem somewhat obvious: you see someone, you are attracted to them, want them all over you versus love between partners is which develops over time. But the answer, at least in the context to which I was asked, I believe has a little something to do with patterns – say polarity – and craving something from a partner that really is totally outside of love.
By Christina K. Pierce5 years ago in Humans
An Open Letter to Those I've Lost-- I'm Taking Responsibility
I should preface that very few of the people whom have broken my heart have done so from a position of romantic involvement, this is not just about that kind of heart break. I should also preface that I am a highly emotional person with several mental illnesses and that I am well aware that my issues cause issues.
By ✧ Sagery Binx ✧5 years ago in Humans
"Breaking Free From Old Baggage"
We often carry around a lot of old dirty baggage that no longer serves us. And initially, we serve it for so long that we lose ourselves, our purpose, our willpower to live, and have a healthy productive life. I've come to an understanding that I have brought that baggage into my personal life and relationships, without realizing it would have a very negative outcome in my future relationships.
By A Women's Voice5 years ago in Humans
5 signs you're in a bad relationship
2020 has been a difficult year for many, many people. Jobs were lost, finances were severed, lives were taken... it has been a very traumatic year. One thing I have noticed is the toll it has taken on our relationships. From my observations, I managed to note a few changes that occurred in really strong relationships. Since Covid, I have seen how these relationships have been slowly breaking down. Here are some key signs to look out for:
By Belanna Paris5 years ago in Humans
5 Intriguing Ways To Revive Your Relationship
Amidst countless emails and dirty dishes, relationships once filled with passion can start to feel passionless. If you’re looking for ways to revive your relationship – rest assured there are lots of them. Here are five expert-approved ones from a sex therapist, that will help ignite the spark again.
By Leigh Norén5 years ago in Humans
