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How to cope with your emotions, maintain mental health, deal with life's stressors and help others do the same.

How to Recognize the Mask of Smiling Depression
The news that Robin Williams, our beloved comedian and Academy Award-winning actor, had committed suicide shocked the world.
By Gary McBrine5 years ago in Psyche
The mythology of "flow" theory
It's fashionable, gauche, self-aggrandizing, and very, very common practice to make everything we do look easy, acting as though it was nothing, like we pooped it out after breakfast. Finishing lines disappear as dust in the wake of the high performers - another milestone, another award, another publication, another house, another million, however you measure it. The achiever barely notices the attention it brings, while they're caught in the act of endless celebration, posting their life as a constant party, barely even mentioning their greatest, latest achievement.
By Lia Ikkos5 years ago in Psyche
Are you highly sensitive? Take the quiz and find out
Editor's note: An earlier version of this article appeared on News Break. A devoted follower of my Facebook page emailed me recently and asked whether I ever had been told I am a “highly-sensitive person.”
By David Heitz5 years ago in Psyche
Dream Interpretation
One of the first signs that you are a witch or psychic is having very vivid dreams. The next sign is realizing that they are coming true or sending you messages for your waking life. Dream interpretation is a big part of witchcraft, especially in the beginning. Psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud once said, “The dream is the (disguised) fulfillment of a (suppressed, repressed) wish.” It is our job to figure out what these wishes are and listen to our dreams as they show us how to get closer to what we want.
By Aivreyz5 years ago in Psyche
How To Let Go Of The "What If" Fear
This article was originally published at rochizalani.com I was uncertain whether or not to write this article. There were many, many (oh God, SO MANY) ‘What ifs?’ in my head before beginning that I wrote the first sentence 20 times. I wanted it to be juicy enough to hold your attention, yet mysterious enough for you to want to read more.
By Rochi Zalani5 years ago in Psyche
My Wife is a Recovering Hoarder. This is How I Helped Her.
My wife's name is Samantha, and she's the love of my life. We've been together for five and a half years and we have two kids. Sam and I have a foundation that continues to stand against new trials and tribulations. This is one that I never thought I'd encounter. As a husband and father I want to give you insight on what I learned, and what it took to give my wife the breakthrough she needed.
By Israel Petty5 years ago in Psyche
My Mental Health journey
I hadn't realised it at the time but looking back I was an anxious kid – always worrying. Always wanting to do the right thing and be as honest as the day is long. I am loyal, so when I commit to someone or something and I get let down, it is a big drop ever how much effort I put into telling myself to be prepared. All that energy wasted worrying because of my commitment, only to be let down. These days I manage that better by not getting too excited or over committing to something so that in the event it goes wrong then no big deal – I move on, expecting nothing less. As a lot of readers will know, mental health wasn’t a well-known thing for a kid who grew up in the 70's and 80's as I did. You had these thoughts, no-one talked about it and when you were weak you were told off or told to get over it instead of being supported. Men in my family have generally not shown emotion so I have followed suit to my detriment in later life. I was bullied and never stood up for myself – always subservient.
By Jamie Fry5 years ago in Psyche
Power of Theorizing
Everybody knows the meaning of theorizing; to form or generate theories, or to suggest some set of ideas. But, there are lot more to learn about the deep facts and knowledge of 'Theorizing'.
By Adarsh Singh5 years ago in Psyche
Pitiful, Scorned and Disillusioned
Merry Christmas Eve and Happy Holidays to all! I speak a lot on the psychological concept of the Shadow archetype, that which acts as an active part of the repressed areas in our psyche.
By Yela 5 years ago in Psyche
Psychological "Shadow" How Integrating It Into Our Everyday Lives May Pave Our Way to Eternal Freedom
"Every single person has a shadow, with the exception of the person who is fully enlightened." If you read my first story here on vocal titled "Tough It Out", then you may already be aware of my use of the term "shadow" , or being within the "shadows."
By Yela 5 years ago in Psyche
How To Identify And Stop Impulsive Behavior
Our brains are like power plants that constantly generate electricity as they pass chemical messages between neurons. When activity rises, the electrical impulses signal the neurotransmitters to be released who pass their information to the neighboring neurons, creating a wave effect of generated energy. According to the actual process the person is going through and the emotional state he has, there is going to be a continuous fluctuation of these transmitters as they alternate their level and change the chemistry of the brain. In particular, many scientists believe that all emotions and feelings we have can be appointed to these chemical imbalances and all of the states we go through in our life can have a very distinct fingerprint in the quantities of those in the brain.
By Philip Baker5 years ago in Psyche
The B Word
Thanksgiving, pandemic fueled Internet-wide binge eating, and The Crown's portrayal of Princess Diana has brought up a lot of ~unrequited trauma~ in the past few months (big shocker there). I learned a lot this year about how people with healthy relationships with food function, which frankly is weird as hell, and I learned a lot about how they react to those of us without healthy relationships with food. I'm annoying and can't shut up about my opinions on my lived experiences so let's talk about how you can be a better advocate for your loved ones with disordered eating.
By Lillie Superstar5 years ago in Psyche