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Calling All Perfectionists!
Do you know how incredibly freeing it is to be okay with failing? I was such a perfectionist growing up, and I still am to an extent. But I’ve been working on this underrated thing called “self-confidence,” and the difference between those who have it and those who don’t is truly remarkable!
By PathlessJourney8 years ago in Motivation
Five’s an Asshole
Some people seem to believe that three's the lucky number of the single-digit bunch, but I? I disagree. I think that five's the real clock cruncher, and here's why. Ever been at a dead end before? I'm not talking some metaphoric "I-don't-know-what-to-do-with-my-life-right-now" dead end, but a real physical dead end. Well, I have and excuse the cliché psychological outlook, but it sucked, and the very reason why I felt so down about bucking up at a dead end when I could've just simply turned around and found another way, got me thinking which lead me to my theory. So, five's my dead end. We commonly associate the number three with a limitation. Whether it's 'Third time's a charm!", or "You get three wishes, and three wishes only', three is where we set our eyes to, and so little numbers after just get forgotten. But five to me is important, because when we reach five, we realize that we've gone two too many over our limitations. We realize that we've been taken for granted, and so we gather and remove ourselves from the situation which brought us to five in the first place. I had a crush on the same kid for five years, and throughout those five years, I would let him treat me however he pleased. I lost sense of who I was, and so I was just his. By the fifth year coming, he got a girlfriend and I had gone through this revelation that was so shocking and surprising, but at the same time eye opening. I had realized how just plain stupid I looked chasing after this guy, and letting him walk over me for five years who was now in a relationship and still referring to me as just his "friend." The fifth year brought on a cruel revelation, so much so it felt like a physical boundary. But without that dead end, I would've still been kissing at the kid's feet looking like a complete idiot. So, five's an asshole for letting it get that far, but was also important because it served as a reminder that three is the damn limit, and hell would freeze over before I forget that. So, don't forget your five, because then you'd end up like me— Kissing the feet that in turn would walk all over you.
By Xara B. Williams8 years ago in Motivation
Comparison Kills
We often compare ourselves to other people, whether it's what they have, where they are in this stage of their life, or what they are doing. Social media is one of the most common ways for us to compare our lives to others'. We get to have a sneak peek and a snippet of peoples' lives. You see that one of your coworkers got that promotion that you were hoping for. While scrolling you see that house you were hoping for is sold; or, that one of your closest friends got a new car while you're struggling to keep yours. Maybe it is a group of your peers who are graduating and you're still trying to figure out which degree to pursue. The truth of the matter is, we have no idea how those people got what they have. We don't know what it took to get where they are now. Comparing yourself to someone else will always leave you unhappy because someone will always have more than you or always be further than you are. It is my belief when God placed us on this Earth we were beautifully and wonderfully made. Each one of us has a gift. We become so aware of other people's gifts that we forget our own. Galatians 6:4-6 states, “But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he has rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. For every man shall bear his own burden. Let him that is taught in the word communicate unto him that teach in all good things.” This means don’t compare yourself to others. Just look at your own work to see if you have done anything to be proud of. You must accept the responsibilities that are yours. I believe whoever is being taught God’s word should share the good things they have with the one who is teaching them.
By Santayshia Wilson8 years ago in Motivation
Money-Making Motivation
When you are young, you think there is nothing that you need to worry about. You cannot get hurt, you have all the money in the world, and you feel there is nothing that could ever go wrong. As you grow older, you start to realize that since you were so carefree when you were young, you screwed yourself over in a sense that reality and adulthood are sinking in. I know this firsthand because I was this exact person. I played outside doing dangerous things (like jumping off the roof of our shed onto our trampoline). I also spent every dollar I ever got because it would burn a hole in my pocket if I did not. It did not bother me at all that I was this way. Now that I am 24 and freshly graduated from college, I have an entirely new perspective. Especially when it comes to earning and saving money.
By Corrin Regginello8 years ago in Motivation
Life: The Greatest Balancing Act
Being only 18, there is so much to life that I have yet to discover. However, I have experienced a lot within these years—lessons and events that have helped me to grow into the individual I am today. I have learned that to truly enjoy life and to make the most of it, it is important to find a balance in everything you do.
By Jeanne-Marie Branche8 years ago in Motivation
Dream Big
Do you remember being a kid? Times were uncomplicated and straightforward. Stray thoughts would drift through your mind like a refreshing summer breeze. These thoughts consisted of friendship, young love, and spectacular dreams for "when you were old enough to chase them". That actually meant when you could drive. Yet, now when you look back on those dreams, you label them as “irrational” or “unrealistic”. What happened?
By Joel W.8 years ago in Motivation
Cultivation
Cultivation doesn't start when the weeds start growing; it starts when you prepare the seedbed or planting area for your vegetables or flowers. You'll need various hoes, cultivators, spades, and digging forks to create a good seedbed. (https://garden.org/learn/articles/view/2447/)
By Luis Tomas Graveley Jr8 years ago in Motivation
Clowns and Men
Like most children, I have a monster under the bed. (I say "have" because they still unnerve me to this day.) My monster under the bed is the simple Clown. There is really no story to this fear, no trauma as a child to talk about. I just started to fear them. My father's first gift to me was a porcelain clown. When the Clown Craze in 2016 occurred it was my worst nightmare in real life and it didn't help that I found out from my father while at the mall parking lot at 9 PM. And with the remake of IT late last year, I wasn't having any of it. Just looking up the dates of the clown sightings I got uneasy with the clown pictures that popped up with the articles.
By Stephany Martinez8 years ago in Motivation
You're Not Shit. Society Is.
Before you think you might have a mental illness, read this. So you've noticed that you're not quite feeling yourself lately. Maybe you can't focus on anything, enjoy the things you once did, sleep or eat as well... perhaps you might be thinking that there's something wrong with you. There could very well be, but before you come to this conclusion, there's something everyone needs to look at.
By Jessica Murray8 years ago in Motivation
