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Signs The Guy You’re Talking To Is A F*ckboy
He doesn’t let you touch his phone – red flag. His phone is always facing down – red flag. If says, “come over, let's watch Netflix” – red flag. If he texts you anytime after 10 PM – red flag. If he ghosts on you mid conversation and picks up hours later where the conversation ended without an explanation – red flag. He goes for sex right away – red flag. I’m so sorry, ladies, but it’s not what you think it is with this guy. And I know it hurts because you want to believe all the sweet nothings he tells you, but take it from someone who has chosen all the wrong fish in the sea. What I’m about to tell you are the ultimate signs of a f*ckboy.
By Bianca Ebako8 years ago in Humans
Born to Not Fit In
I realized growing up that I was different from the rest of the world. Not because I have a different set of fingerprints or that my social security number was one of kind, but that I physically looked different. When I was 5-years-old and truly started to see a difference in the way I looked, I thought it was AMAZING! I had an insight that no one else had. To give you some background information of where I’m coming from, I have a very diverse heritage. My ethnicity includes black, white, Native American, Puerto Rican, and a bit of Haitian. My dad had red hair and freckles, my mom had the lightest skin a black woman could have (in my 5-year-old opinion), my older two siblings were definitely a lighter shade of brown than I was, and then there was me. Don’t get me started on my white cousins who lived in California. But growing up through the ages of 5 - 10, I saw myself as “lucky” given that I could relate to some many people of color. Then society hit hard, and my innocence was quickly taken away. I was being told through social media that there was a right way to look, and that was not me. Here, let me take you on a journey of why I was born not to fit in.
By Erika Watson8 years ago in Humans
Love Languages 101
When it comes to love, our styles are as unique as our features. The way we communicate love to one another is usually the sum of all the ways we have learned to express love in our past. Soaking up lessons on love from our parents, teachers, romances and TV shows. Sometimes, serendipitously, you find a friend or a lover who seems to be already fluent in your love language. On the other hand, some people have to practice at learning to speak the other's lingo. It can feel like each person is giving it their all, but still there is a disconnect. But don't lose hope! By understanding how the other person accepts love and gives love, the communication will flow and each person will feel appreciated and equal. Here are some ways to note your different love languages:
By Danielle Lmt8 years ago in Humans
The New Norm
When I was a kid, I thought your college/early 20’s years were supposed to a time to find yourself and to have fun. This was the norm 10 to 20 years ago. The new norm is finding someone who tolerates you enough to be with you 24/7, settles with you, and might even have a “mini-you” with. Now when I am at my early 20’s phase of my life, I am a single career black woman who is trying to enjoy these years. She’s also trying to have it all and understanding the meaning of multiple important want/needs.
By Phiona Marks8 years ago in Humans
I Don't Know How to Be Myself
"Be yourself," they would say. Your parents, your guardian, your high-school counselor. Basically any authoritative figure giving advice when you'd feel insecure or want to fit in. But how do kids become insecure? What makes a kid want to fit in? They certainly were not born wanting to please others, so where do they learn it? "Being yourself," is a great concept, but there's a problem when it comes to applying it; kids don't know who they are, because they are too busy learning to please everyone else. The saddest part is that those they are pleasing learned to do the same thing, not realizing it has lead them to life that is unfulfilling to their truest desires.
By Summer Sheehan8 years ago in Humans
...The Ones We Love
In 1999, a young man went to visit his friend at work and grab snacks for a movie. The young man, who had just turned 18, was hoping his friend could get off work to go see this new movie titled Fight Club, starring Brad Pitt and Edward Norton. The trailer looked action-packed and interesting enough to give it a shot. The young man went solo. From the intro to the opening scene, we were riding a neuropathic map that leads to a bead of sweat dripping from the lead characters forehead, revealing a handgun placed in his mouth.
By Art Creeps8 years ago in Humans
Bridging the Distance
There is nothing quite like the heart ache and uncertainty of being separated from the one you love by miles and miles. Being in a long-distance relationship can be one of the most trying obstacles to a relationship. It is a challenge that lots of couples have a have time navigating. The good news is technology has made it easier than it has ever been to send those loving feelings to the object of your adoration. With a little bit of creativity and your love to inspire you, the distance won’t seem as far as you think.
By Kimberly Adams8 years ago in Humans
How to Not Woo a Woman
The world of dating is tough. Especially online dating. It seems like every time you want a real relationship, everyone else wants a hook-up and every time you want a hook-up, everyone else wants you to meet their mother and join their church and bare their children.
By Jessica Rowe8 years ago in Humans
