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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
How to Share Your Opinion When You’re Terrified of Conflict
One of the most common pieces of advice I read on ideation and brainstorming topics to write about is to write about what makes you angry. I always cringe a little when I read this; I am notorious for picking harmless topics that no one can get offended over. I’m so afraid of conflict that I avoid controversial topics like they’re medieval plague doctors. I avoid subjects that I want to write about because I’m afraid of the reaction I’ll get.
By Leigh Victoria Phan, MS, MFA6 years ago in Humans
Keeping Your Relationship Fresh with Exciting New Things
A new relationship brings loads of excitement. All those butterflies in your belly that won’t let you sleep, daydreaming and that feeling you have the whole world at your feet. However, these sentiments are destined to dwindle after some time has passed and it is absolutely expected. Although it might seem that the relationship is becoming boring, it doesn’t have to be that way. There are so many things you can do to rekindle old flames and make a mature relationship exhilarating again. Let’s take a look at some great ideas to freshen things up and bring back the butterflies.
By Theodora Evans6 years ago in Humans
The Number one Rule for Dating
In your 20s you spend a lot of time comforting and reassuring friends after a bad date, because they're being ghosted or when they feel they can't find anyone. Many people put too much pressure on themselves to date successfully, and to meet someone within a certain timeframe. It doesn't work that way. You can't plan your future love life and expect life to follow those guidelines. I'm sorry, but your life isn't a fairytale. Wishing for something doesn't make it happen, and you shouldn't expect it to.
By Tone Breistrand6 years ago in Humans
Unloved, Misunderstood, and Alone
Transparency and vulnerability are normally paired together and instill a gut-wrenching pain in my stomach whenever they are uttered. Even as I type, I feel the sting that those two words inflict on me. However, that same gut-wrenching feeling can be the biggest obstacle to breaking free of the cycle. To explain this, I will pin-point the biggest lies that I believed about myself.
By Sarah Baker6 years ago in Humans
Why do People keep cheaters around?
Infidelity should not be tolerated by no means. As someone who have had the experience of being cheated on, I know all too well the pain of betrayal and the feeling of worthlessness that one feels when he or she discovered that the person they supposed to be committed to and in love with had found interest and comfort in the arms of another person. Sometimes we know why it happens, other times we have no clue as to what we did to deserve being cheated on. Usually the reason itself makes no sense as the cheaters tend to point the finger at their partner, whether it’s blaming them for lack of attention, not being able to fulfill a certain need or want, or just using fights in the relationship as a reason to go and find someone else to fulfill a certain need in their lives. Most of the time, we tend to take they guys or gals back into our lives, reassuring ourselves that if we work on trust and move on we will be a stronger and better couple. As I matured myself, I have grown to have a zero tolerance for cheaters. Once that line has been crossed, it’s you go your way and I go my way. However, I know plenty of people who regardless of the amount of evidence they have on their partner, still want to work on the relationship. Even when their partner has been caught red handed, they still hold on the hope that everything will work out and that their cheating partner will no longer in the future betray them like that again. Based on my own experiences, I’ve realize the different reasons why people take cheaters back. I’m going to point out the many reasons why people make the decision to put themselves in the position to be hurt again and why they should reconsider and save themselves time, pain, and future disappointments.
By Spencer Jean-Mary6 years ago in Humans
5 Perfect Gifts to Get Any Woman in Your Life
Everyone wants to treat their loved ones with special gifts, but it's sometimes difficult to find the perfect thing. If you have a special woman in your life and want to buy her something special, here are five simple and exciting gifts.
By Casey Chesterfield6 years ago in Humans
Things not to do when you're heartbroken
1. Don't read Normal People or watch it's tv adaptation that recently came out on Stan. I remember when I first read Normal People and fell in love with the awkward and what was written like it felt very real relationship between Marianne and Connell . It's such a humanising and frustrating novel, and I remember it leaving me emotionally tired and reflecting on how we as humans, have this tendency to inevitably self-sabotage the beautiful, lovely things and connections we have in life. After having recently binged the tv show (which is as perfect an adaption that one could make, has the most beautifully authentic intimacy scenes and the greatest cast), I felt the same emotions, if not more so, than I did when I read the book. Reliving these feelings and watching the ups and downs of the relationship between the two central characters, coupled with the grief and hurt that's still in my hurt, triggered lots of late-night emotional spirals. I do think the show is exquisite though, however, I'd recommend waiting a little bit post-break up or watching it with a friend, who you can lean on throughout the moments on the screen that make your heart feel heavy.
By Virag Dombay6 years ago in Humans
