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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
6 Years
Six years ago I met a guy who set my entire being on fire. I’m a preacher’s kid, so up until college I had never really experienced much other than drunken theatre party kissing, and I was too self-conscious and inexperienced to do anything about my raging sexual desires (it's always the quiet ones I’m telling you). I’d had crushes, child-like obsessions, but never had I experienced a mental and physical awakening than I did when I met him. Something in the way he looked at me, spoke to me, hell, the sheer fact that he wanted me made me both excited and terrified. Most of all, it made me addicted to him. I wanted him, I wanted his brain, I wanted his conversations, I wanted his laugh, I wanted his smile, I wanted his love. The sad part about it was, he was broken. Recently shattered and shut down to anything other than sexual desires, things that I was too nervous and not at all versed or confident in. I wanted time, he wanted action. He also wanted my friend, newly met as well, also recently broken, well versed in her sexual desires. They clicked at a speed that I could not keep up, nor was I at all happy about. It became a silent battle between me and her, frenemies to the tenth power. Passive-aggressive conversations, silent glaring, a battle of wills as we fought over his attention. Secret nights in the study room, slowly opening myself up to him mentally and physically in the hopes that he would choose me, that he was patient enough to work with me on my fears and my nervousness. Hope that he would take care of my body like he said he would via text, or the late nights when it was just us. It wasn’t enough. He chose her and I found out via Snapchat from a party that I wasn’t even invited to (we had the same friend group mind you). I was shattered. I had fallen for him in the time I was fighting for him, and seeing him hold her, kiss her the way I wanted him to hold me, it hurt more than anything I can remember. The very guy who told me he didn’t want a relationship, the very guy who took my virginity, asked her to be his girlfriend just days later.
By Nichelle Rose 6 years ago in Humans
When He Needed More
We all have lessons to learn in life, and that was a hard 7 year lesson, but ready to re-start my life. Get done what I need to get done and that’s helping people, helping people who can’t speak up for themselves, abused men, woman and children, every person who needs my help and positivity, starting with my Home Town, people think living in the US should be great, home of the free, except we can’t openly write about content that is Non-Conforming, Out of the Realm of the Reality We Have Illusioned Ourselves with, I’d rather be me anyday of the week than A Mindless Conformer who has No Personality. I’m that person either You Hate Me or You Love Me No In Between. I know at this stage in life who Iam and What I’m not gonna be, and What I’ve Learned.
By Tennille Kay Dragan6 years ago in Humans
Illuminating Narcissism
This part of the series will be focused on the fact that you unknowingly got involved with a narcissist. The mask kept their true identity hidden. More likely than not, you didn’t become aware of their true nature until they showed their true colors. None of this is your fault!
By Angela Fosnaugh6 years ago in Humans
Why You Should Never Say The "B" Word During An Argument
What i'm about to say is going to mold your character and challenge you to evolve as an individual and as a partner. At times, your relationship can be paradise but in other moments, it can feel like troublesome waves are crashing into this beautiful thing you've built together. Like with everything, relationships can have their ups and downs.
By Gabrielle Joseph6 years ago in Humans
Legendary Poetry: In Latin we call it Dolor
In Latin we call it Dolor I look around the masses, the groups, the cliques, the couples, the individuals and notice what appears to be their fair lives. Lives so unlike the existence that I endure. So many people. And yet I am in pain. So much time. And yet I am in pain. So many places. And yet I am in pain. So many opportunities. And yet I am in pain.
By Legend Gilchrist6 years ago in Humans
WHY DOES MY NEW GIRLFRIEND CONTINUALLY TALK ABOUT HER EX?
This is a good question not to ignore as it is a big red flag for both sexes to pay close attention to! It is not OK for your new partner to continually bring up her Ex. You are right to be concerned because it generally means she is emotionally unavailable and not ready to date. You will definitely have to have an honest conversation with her about this, and it is important to acknowledge this scenario early on and not to leave things unaddressed hoping it will go away.
By Susan McCord6 years ago in Humans
How To Turn Your Relationship From Blah Into Fantastic
When you are in a relationship and you feel that your partner is not treating you right, then you must think about how to turn things right and create the same dynamic love between you two the way it was earlier. You want to try every possible way to make things right between you and your partner. As long as you and your partner want to put in the effort to get your relationship back on track things will fall in your favor.
By Laura Smith6 years ago in Humans
6 Ways to Improve Communication in our relationships
Disclaimers I tend to shy away from giving relationship advice because I do not believe that any 2 relationships are the same. If no 2 persons in this world are the same then it stands to reason that when 2 unique persons come together, then there can be no other relationship exactly like that one. However, we can have similar experiences. Any advice (even that which I am about to give) must be taken and tailored to your own circumstances.
By Kay Johnson-Clennon6 years ago in Humans
