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Age Gap
" When you really love someone age, distance, height, weight are just numbers." Age gap relationships have been happening for hundreds of years, yet it is still the topic of many conflicted conversations and debates. It has become normalized but not everyone has accepted it. Why? And you would think that even after centuries of it accruing that it would become less of an issue. Yet it has not. What are your views on age gap relationships? Are you against it or for it?
By Kae5 years ago in Humans
12 Quarantine Date Night Ideas To Spice It Up
Are you trying to find the love that was lost during the pandemic? Did the coronavirus kill your relationships love life? Let´s face it Covid 19 and romance didn´t exatcly go in the same sentence this year.
By Silena Le Beau5 years ago in Humans
Secret to sleep in peace
"Anger, resentment, and jealousy doesn't change the heart of others-- it only changes yours." ― Shannon Alder "You can only be jealous of someone who has something you think you ought to have yourself."
By LENE - Erislene Brito5 years ago in Humans
Overcoming the Past
The first time was supposed to be the last time. This is what I told myself after I lost count of how many times I had been knocked up side my head. This time was different; he left bruises. For the longest time, it had been verbal abuse. He'd say things like, "You're not good enough!", or "you're too skinny", and the one that stung the most, "That's not my baby!" I did not understand how someone who claimed they loved me could say those things, but for some reason I just could not let him go. This time it was different; I believed everything he said. He was not drunk or high, he said these things in pure anger.
By Keturah Wicks5 years ago in Humans
The Fundamentals Of Unconditional Love
Acceptance That lifetime inner feeling of emptiness, the feeling that something always seemed to be missing or something not being quite right. A yearning for "the one" all left me once my twin flame and I connected but a feeling of suppression replaced it. All of my relationship needs and desires got pushed to the side. Every time I felt the urge to get close to my twin I got shut down by the brick wall that reminded me this was my desire but not necessarily his.
By Vee's Voice5 years ago in Humans
How to Deal With an Emotionally Unstable Partner
1. Step Back and Observe Ask yourself if you did anything wrong. Because they tend to gaslight other people (see above), emotionally unstable people have you question your actions and sanity. Be objective, and observe them and yourself. Did you really do anything wrong? Probably not.
By WhatsNew5 years ago in Humans
Why People Matter?
As 2020 comes to a close. I have been doing some reflection on this year, personally and looking at the events of the world. This year has been a unique one with the Covid 19 Virus, another controversial election period, and division surrounding issues that should bring us together.
By Michael Keck5 years ago in Humans
Men, Anger, Masculinity and Stress
It’s November, a month which celebrates Movember, an annual event involving the growing of moustaches during the month of November to raise awareness of men’s health issues, such as prostate cancer, testicular cancer, and men’s suicide. Men, a gender less discussed and often stays at the hard side of self-image without sharing much leads a life of lonesome hay-wire sides. So, today’s blog is especially dedicated to the fact that the built is never to be alone….. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines anger as “a strong feeling of displeasure and usually of antagonism.” Psychologist T.W. Smith agrees, saying it is “an unpleasant emotion ranging in intensity from irritation or annoyance to fury or rage.” But being angry is different for everyone at different times. Tiny Things that ignite some people don’t bother others even a tiny bit. Yet we all experience events that makes us angry. Some of them are as follows : Frustration and powerlessness. Hurt and Bullying. Harassment . Injustice. Exhaustion from stress . Threats to the people, near ones, things we care about. Extreme anger is a highly issue causing on multiple events. When someone reaches extreme levels of anger, they are unable to control themselves. This type of anger can also be a sign of a issue such as a mental health disorder, emotional issues, etc. While women are more likely to direct their anger inwards and blaming themselves, men are more likely to lash out extremely because it helps them feel in more control of their emotions, as well as controlling the people around them. The way men experience and express anger may be informed especially from societal expectations to behave. These notions of male masculinity tend to favour strength, dominance and control. These could result in a negative impact on men’s mental health. Also, men may be less likely than women to seek help from mental health professionals. As these behaviours are very much linked to our culture, parents and teachers have an important role to play when boys grow up. Identifying the causes behind behaviours among boys perceived as problematic, may go a long way towards nurturing healthy adult men in the upcoming society. Anger Management for Men Tips Exercise regularly. Men are by default inclined towards more physical exercises and fitness regimes due to levels of testosterone. Exercise helps in release of chemicals such as dopamine and serotonin into the body, which can improve your state of mind and make one less prone to anger. Find some quiet time. Often ignored by majority of men, these are one of the most fruitful techniques to apply. Practice relaxation techniques. Mindfulness can help to relax and cope better with stress. Avoid alcohol. Alcohol lowers your inhibitions, and can make angry outbursts more likely. Express emotion. A total ignorance by all the boys and men which in their thoughts reduces a sense of masculinity. Talking about feelings with a close friend or loved one, and keeping a journal. Theses simple things can often keep you away from a lot of issues. Assert yourself. Assertiveness is not aggression. Learn to get what you want while taking account of others and respect their feelings. Recognise yourself in anger You think that your wife/girlfriend likes talking to her friends rather than spending that time with you. You feel anger when your wife/girlfriend brings work home with her and you envy her success. You are angry that you are always being criticised by your wife/girlfriend, to the point that you can’t ever seem to get it right. Once you begin to recognise some of the deeper fears underlying your anger, you might consider the truly intimate act of talking with your wife/partner about some of your fears. This act of loving vulnerability may be very frightening to consider, but the rewards often far outweigh the risks. After you recognise your fears and reasons of anger, talking intimately with your partner or resolving issues just by easy sense of understanding with anyone around you really helps. This vulnerability is not to be frightened of but to be faced with the masculinity you have. So, next time you feel your anger rising upwards, just take deep breaths, think twice, is it really needed and then see the moment you might have missed….
By Aryan5 years ago in Humans
Relationship Advice For Women - Tips on How to Get Your Spouse to Love You More
Relationship Advice For Women - Tips on How to Get Your Spouse to Love You More:- Relationship Advice for Women can be extremely helpful. Especially in the current economy, it is important to know what to do when you are experiencing a rocky time. There are a lot of things that women can do in order to fix their relationships and have them become stronger. Some tips will help women avoid falling into bad habits, while other tips can make their relationships stronger.
By Get Value Daily5 years ago in Humans
Single for the Holidays?
I've been single for over two years. I know right, it's crazy (wink)! I'm going into my third holiday season with no plus one. Is this something that bothers me personally? Not at all! But I understand that this can be a big deal and quite bothersome for some. The holidays are about love, being thankful and joyful, and many of us have a longing to share in these emotions and feelings beyond just our family and friends. We also want to have that special someone with us in these special times. But if this is not your life right now, like it isn't mine, I NEED you to know that there are still great ways to have the best time during the holidays without letting being single steal your holiday spirit!
By Alesia Davis5 years ago in Humans
Afterthoughts
Most of us start out the new year expecting a fresh beginning. This is the time to make a list of your new year’s resolutions and conquer them! Or in most peoples’ case just make a list. This year started out pretty decent for me actually. I was working full-time and going to school full-time as well. I was looking forward to graduating with my Bachelor’s degree in May. Thank goodness because I was pulling my hair out with all the stress from school. Literally, you could see clumps of my hair all over the house, but that could also have been from my lack of cleaning lately. Moving onto March, I started hearing more about COVID-19. They had begun to shut down certain businesses in Minnesota where I was living. There was talk around my work place saying that we could possibly get shut down because we weren’t considered an essential business. Later on, we got notice that we were essential. Who knew a book binding company was essential? Anyways, my company ended up laying off myself and several other employees for about a month. After the month, everyone got called back but me. I forgot to mention, my husband also worked at the same company. When everyone got called back and I didn’t, my husband started asking questions as to why I was still stuck sitting at home since I was the accounting administrator. My boss finally replied in a roundabout way saying they weren’t calling me back. That moment started my job search, which still continues to this day unfortunately.
By Samantha Erickson5 years ago in Humans
I feel thankful for Quarantine
I am thankful for the space that COVID has allowed me to take in regards to a toxic relationship. 2020 has been, well, unimaginable to most; feeling almost like a horror movie that hasn‘t ended yet. Maybe titled, ”The Silent Stalker: How One Virus Took Over the World.” Yes, we have been in this for 9 months now, the length it takes to carry a child to full term. That’s a perspective I can also hardly imagine.
By A. C. Clementine 5 years ago in Humans