Living Together

Living together might be feeling a little more normal at this point. The two of you are probably used to each other’s habits or at least know what to expect, and you are probably going about your regular routine of tackling your responsibilities. However, with this new move, there is a potential that the two of you might have taken on extra hours, and the time that you have with each other might not be as much as you thought you would have.

Not being able to spend as much time with each other might cause the two of you to fight more, and you feel like you don’t even know each other anymore. If this is the case, then the two of you will have to set aside a little time each week so you can go out on a date and have the opportunity to reconnect. This might mean rearranging your work schedule or sacrificing some of the spare time that you use to rest, but it might help the two of you stay on the same page. It will also give both of you a chance to show each other how much you care about each other and allow both of you to reevaluate where you are in your relationship and reflect on how far you have gotten from where you started.

Sending little messages to each other throughout the day might help the two of you stay in contact too. You don’t want to go too crazy, texting the other person every hour, but take the time to send a couple of texts to your partner while he or she is away from the house, so he or she knows that you are thinking about him or her. You could ask about his or her day. You could offer words of encouragement, especially if you know that he or she has been having a difficult time at work. You could even make an effort to make plans with your partner if you know that both of you have an hour or so where you are free. Meet up for lunch or share a phone call. Do something to show that you care about him or her. Making this extra effort could make things flow better between the two of you, and it could keep you close even when you have to be away from each other.

Another thing that you could do is to write little notes to your partner and send them in his or her lunch. That way, when he or she has a break from his or her chaotic work situation, he or she can read the note and think about you, knowing that you were thinking about him or her. This might keep your partner’s spirits up and show that you are supportive of him or her even when things get tough. Who knows? Your partner might even decide to write notes back to you.

Once the two of you have set a good time to get together during the week, do your best to make things flow smoothly. If you are going out, then plan the reservation ahead of time. Try to make sure that the chores are done so you don’t have to come back from your date and clean. Also, keep the lines of communication open. Ask your partner about his or her day. Listen to the stories that he or she has to tell and ask him or her about the feelings that he or she has had while trying to juggle his or her schedule. Make sure the two of you know what is going on with each other. This might help the two of you communicate better even when you can’t be in the same room.