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Advice and tips on managing mental health, maintaining a positive outlook and becoming your happiest self.

Life makes us laugh and cry
When I was a child, I didn’t understand the adult world. I thought it was as simple as one plus one. When I was a child, the watch painted on the wrist would never go away, but it took away our best time.
By Horn Smith4 years ago in Psyche
All emotions are the help of human growth
Long-term repression, obviously unhappy but implying that everyone has lived like this, why can't I? I shouldn't be feeling this way. So ignore the emotions, suppress the emotions. New employees in the workplace will especially think this way, and their bad emotions will not be vented, and they will eventually collapse.
By Horn Smith4 years ago in Psyche
What sudden insights do you have every day?
Every time I chat with someone and say that I am a freelancer, the other person will sigh: You must be very self-disciplined! Perhaps in the eyes of those who don’t know, freelancers do need to be very self-disciplined, because there is no boss to arrange work, and there is no system for you to check in from 9 to 6. If you lack a certain self-management ability, you are likely to sleep until noon (it is too difficult to get up in the morning in winter), or you may stay up late to watch dramas and delay work. My other half also often says that they admire me for being able to arrange their life and work well, and to learn actively. Every time he says I am self-disciplined, I am confused: Am I really self-disciplined? Why can't I feel it? When it comes to self-discipline, everyone will subconsciously feel that this is a very painful thing. I am no exception. Self-discipline seems to be relying on self-control to force yourself to do those right but painful things, such as getting up early, exercising, and studying. But I never force myself to do things I don't want to do, so when people say I'm self-disciplined, I feel like they don't understand me. But when I look back at my work and life, I seem to be self-disciplined: I get up early every day, work hard, and maintain a regular life. Make healthy and simple meals for yourself at home, exercise every day, and keep your home clean and tidy. Dedicated time will be set aside for reading and writing every day to improve professional skills.
By nian xi4 years ago in Psyche
Life is just a process
When I was young, Dad had three iron laws, and whoever violated them would have the most severe punishment. One is not to urinate in the river water, and the other is that ewes who are pregnant with lambs cannot be killed! When the elders call you, you cannot answer with a questioning tone! Once, the only time, when I urinated in the lower reaches of the river, the big dad kicked up and scolded you with the most disgusting words. That kind of momentum was especially terrible. Even a person like me who remembers eating and not hitting has never had a second time. These three iron laws have accompanied me to this day.
By Richard Zhong4 years ago in Psyche
There is no failure in youth
Just like people cannot leave their own shadow, success is always unable to get rid of failure, although people do everything possible to get rid of failure, but still troubled everyone. Perhaps is the failure in the business field, perhaps is the obstruction in the official career, perhaps is the backwardness in the sports field, but for us - a group of vigorous college students, failure is just a late success.
By mistli4 years ago in Psyche
Live life, if you can choose to smile, don't be sad
When a person is in the dust for too long, he forgets how to open himself up; when a person stays in the house for too long, he lacks the courage to face the sun; a person always covers up his true feelings, his face is expressionless, and gradually Also forget how to smile. The sun is always warm, as long as you are willing to open yourself up, a smile can release your heart and relieve some stress.
By Horn Smith4 years ago in Psyche
Twenty to thirty, drinking countless cans of chicken soup and still not really mature
When you are young, you need to struggle, and when you are young, you have the capital to try and make mistakes. After ten years of constant struggle and tempering, I have finally grown from an ignorant, sensitive and vulnerable teenager to an ignorant, sensitive and vulnerable youth. Sounds bad, doesn't it? Yes. But there is a little yearning in my heart for the blow from the waves of life, but it is as flat as me, and the sea of life has only swayed a little.
By Horn Smith4 years ago in Psyche
Where do the biggest problems in your life come from?
Some people say that the biggest confusion in life comes from not being able to let go. I don’t think it’s entirely true, because letting go of what you don’t have is not letting go. It’s easier said than done if you can let go of what you have. There are also people who have summed up the top ten confusions in life. They have always said a lot, and finally said that no matter what kind of emotional state or psychological problem it is, it will gradually change or accept with the soundness of the personality. In this process, we need to constantly strive to accept the reality. The way it should be and ourselves. After reading it, my head became more and more dizzy, and I couldn't make up my mind.
By Horn Smith4 years ago in Psyche
The happiness of eating together
Someone asked: How to express love? Another replied: "Want to eat a lot of meals with that person." Some people laughed and said he was really a foodie. right! More than half of modern young people are foodies, which is not ashamed to admit. When we miss our parents, we often get up because of the rice, and the smell of the rice can even waft across thousands of mountains and rivers. A happy family must be full of fireworks, with sour, sweet, bitter, spicy, and salty flavors!
By Horn Smith4 years ago in Psyche
What makes adults feel insecure
This topic is very broad! The sense of security is manifested in all aspects. It should be said that everyone lacks a 100% sense of security. No matter what social class people are in, they feel that they are not safe enough.
By Horn Smith4 years ago in Psyche
Are you afraid of rejection and denial by others, or are you refusing and denying yourself?
Obviously I work very hard and do my best, why am I still afraid of rejection and denial from the outside world? We hope to gain the affirmation of others to enhance self-confidence and prove self-worth. There is always a voice of fear of rejection and denial in our hearts, which makes us miss the opportunity to show ourselves and let others know ourselves. Psychologically, I want others to know me, but I am afraid that others will deny me after knowing me.
By Horn Smith4 years ago in Psyche
What Is Spiritual Gaslighting and How to Recognize It
In these unprecedented times when millions of people are awakening, some friendly words of caution are in order for all those walking this sometimes bumpy road: beware of spiritual gaslighting. Make sure to learn what it is and how to recognize it, so you don’t get confused like many of us did.
By L'Aquila Active4 years ago in Psyche