The Honest Storm

Arguing is a skill you need to learn.

Sometimes, you don’t need to rush to be the "calm adult." When it’s time to argue, just have a good argument.

Many so-called "communication sessions" are just two people talking past each other, hoping their own thoughts will be heard, yet never truly touching the other person's heart.

On the contrary, arguments—though heated—are often our most honest moments. Emotions are laid bare, unadorned and unpackaged. Say what you mean first, then face the chaos together.

Arguing itself isn’t the problem; long-term suppression is what truly destroys relationships. Being willing to express dissatisfaction, grievances, and disappointment is a form of trust—it shows you care enough not to pretend everything is fine.

People who truly want to leave usually don’t even bother arguing. Anger stems from lingering expectations.

Only after the emotions have subsided can true understanding and listening occur. If a relationship can weather the storm, what remains is often more authentic and more stable.

But arguing takes practice. Learning how to express your feelings—without hurting others or using anger as emotional blackmail—is inherently difficult. Deliberately using arguments to prove you care is not a mature approach.

So, just remember a few things: Being angry doesn’t necessarily mean I am right; Your anger also has its reasons.

Use words, not fists. Anger can be expressed, but your words must remain clear.

As for those who drift apart after an argument, the problem is often not the argument itself, but rather that their beliefs and values were fundamentally different from the start.

Since neither party is "wrong," losing the connection isn't necessarily a regret. Some relationships simply don't need to be forced.

Thank you for reading!