self help
Self help, because you are your greatest asset.
Confessions of a perfectionist
One of my biggest struggles in my public and personal sphere is being a perfectionist. My desire to be a flawless person in both my internal and external life means that on a day to do basis I set myself exceedingly high standards that I set out to achieve. Whether it's making sure that I get the highest grades on my papers, ticking off everything on my to do list or making sure that every dish in my cupboard is in the right place. Yes, my perfectionism is a motivating factor in achieving my goals, practicing self-improvement and in giving 150% into everything I do. It means that I'm a high achiever; a trait which has a massive downside at the best of times. I often find myself setting standards that are extremely high and often impossible to achieve. If I don't achieve these ideals then I become very self-critical about myself and my own self-worth. I become so overwhelmed with all of these stresses and my own demands of making sure that I'm this perfect being that I often end up over-thinking and procrastinating the task at hand due. My fear of failure of not doing enough often sends my brain spiralling down a few steep slope and I often find it difficult to find the calm after the storm.
By Virag Dombay5 years ago in Motivation
How to Improve your Personal Life
Do you can accept the things you can change and the things you cannot change? Do you can accept that other people are opted to change them, rather than you changing them? Do you accept that you are who you are, regardless of what others think? Can you accept the many changes that take place in your life?
By Spirit Guide Communication through the Art of Divination5 years ago in Motivation
Are You Toxic?
Let's get something right straight off the bat: Just because you may exhibit toxic traits does NOT make you a bad person or a bad partner. Toxic traits can be subtle and passive or they can be blunt and loud. Finding success and happiness in your life depends on ridding it of toxicity in as many forms as you can, and the first step has to begin with yourself.
By Jon Jones5 years ago in Motivation
It’s tough.
I’m sure you’ve been there; And if not then count your blessings. It is so common and yet here we are. Still afraid to even talk about it. We have such an understanding of it apparently, so why are we so far away from it being normal? If you don’t believe that then look at what needs to be changed. We call it “mental” health? Why when we are not mental we are normal beings? Are we meant to adapt to all of the wrongdoings in life? I’m sure if we were we wouldn’t go through it. It is brought on by severe distress or disbelief in an event in life, or by small events, both leading to the great destination that is depression. Now my own depression occurred through years of mental abuse from bullies effecting my confidence as they would comment on my appearance. I would bounce back and try not to let it get me down but when I look back I realise the great deal of stress it brought me. Fast forward 12 years to where I lost my best friend and my biggest protector, my dad. The one who I would know would always protect me from the big bad world, from the bullying and from the stress. Am I meant to just cope with the realisation of going off into the big bad world without him before I was officially an adult. Was I supposed to deal with this accordingly and not let it effect my thoughts? In all of this I have been abused, cheated on, lied to and walked all over by people I loved with all my heart. I am an animal lover, I used to go round moving snails off the pavement to the other side just to make sure they didn’t get trampled on in the dark. I believe everyone should be respected and should feel loved no matter what their story is because you don’t know what’s going on in their mind. I only know what’s going on in mine and can only hope no one is ever feeling the same way and I wouldn’t want to trigger an alarm in their head that could stress them out. So that’s it, be kind to everyone . It is that simple.
By B Bennett5 years ago in Motivation
Completely Lost
Let`s just say I`m a 19 year old girl who`s completely lost in this world and mind. I feel like I don`t know what to do with my life so I decided to write when I need to express my internal battles and exterior conflicts. I use to write as a way of expressing since I struggle with verbally expressing myself. No, I don`t have thoughts of taking my life or causing self-harm but I do have thoughts of what my purpose on this earth is. I believe my purpose was to heal others, not physically like a nurse, but spiritually from the soul. I believe we`re all bruised and damaged but never broken. I`ve always been one that everybody went to when it came to expressing themselves without feeling judged and being heard and understood. i see myself as my own boss instead of working for someone else. I do have internal battles with myself. Sometimes I could be a bitch, and sometimes i could be the most sweetest person ever. I can`t help but be easily irritated with people and what they do but the nice side of me fights with me, letting me know that it`s nice and they don`t deserve that so I stay quiet. I could be the most social butterfly in the room being the life of the party and bringing everybody making sure everybody is having fun. At times I`m an introvert and anti-social. I feel intimidated talking to people because I feel like they`re watching me and judging everything I do just waiting for me to mess up. I swear that i have two polar opposite sides of me living in me and I don`t know how to handle them at times. But now I really feel like I don`t know what to do with them. I don`t want to go to college because I don`t know what i want my career to be yet because i see myself doing multiple things and they all make an impact on society but I don`t know which one would take the lead role in my life. So now I`m trying to find a job but it`s hard when I don`t have that much working experience and all the jobs I apply to either don`t get back to me or i get an interview to be denied after that. I`m stuck in this little dark bubble feeling all this stagnant energy and I`m lost on what to do. I keep pushing and pushing but how much more pushing do I need to do before I find something to do with myself instead of being lost in the mist of this stagnant energy.
By ArielleC.5 years ago in Motivation
Things 2020 Has Taught Me
2020 has been a year full of challenges. Honestly, it has felt like we are all playing a video game that no one has played before and we skipped the instructions. Plus, we selected the hardest level available. It has been one gut punch after another. I kept finding myself asking ”when will this get better”? However, I am still trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel. With all the rain and storms, there has to be a few rainbows in the mix. Yes, 2020 had pushed my mental stability to the limit, but there was some time for me to grow. So, I present to you, Things 2020 Has Taught Me.
By Steven Rice5 years ago in Motivation
Creative Uncertainty
Let me start by asking a simple question. 1 x 10 = 10 x 1, True or false? Well, It depends on how you look at it. Mathematically yes, it’s true. I can fool 10 people once, but I probably can’t fool 1 person 10 times. Logic and maths aren’t all they’re cracked up to be.
By Charles Leon5 years ago in Motivation
A New Life
If I were to start a new life, which I am. Ill change my diet, I will work out, I will be able to stay up all hours. I want to get fit for hiking, I want companionship in my life, I want friends, and I would like to be beautiful inside. So now with this goal in mind how will I make the small steps. Go to the grocery store, organize my pantry with sticky notes, stop drinking coffee, and only drink water and juice. Be happy, be proud of myself for making such a goal. Stop smoking by saving every penny I can. Before, I had a God Jar, money for God. Ill start that again. Ill make a prayer for my husband, but first I need to make a prayer for all that I want to see in myself. Yet just like smoking I have a desire for dating sites, maybe it will get easier to stop once I start praying.
By Brandy Tharp5 years ago in Motivation
The Tao of Listening
One should listen to others carefully, and with attention. Do not be hasty to speak before you have heard what others have to say. In classical Taoism, the sage said very little, or nothing, if nothing was most appropriate. Speaking before hearing is egotistical, can lead to hurt feelings, and sometimes, grievous errors.
By Wayne Harper5 years ago in Motivation
Watching The Parade From A Different Vantage Point
Watching The Parade From a Different Vantage Point (excerpt from my book) Chapter 1 Watching the parade from a different vantage point is an analogy for seeing something from a different perspective. When you understand the fundamental Wäsü Philosophy you will then began to see life from a different perspective, and at times more than one. Being able to view life situations from different perspectives gives balance. This balance is the result of being able to weigh the different variables of life's situations giving deeper insight into everything on a whole. Having this deeper insight helps one live peaceful and harmoniously.
By Wayne Sutphin5 years ago in Motivation
Today is the “better”.
We have all said it. Hell, we use it so often and so religiously that it became a safe place to fall. The comfort of those four words somehow gives an illusion that change happens overnight, without effort or practice. As if a single, simple wishful thought can do it on its own.
By Morgan5 years ago in Motivation
