Isolated, Exhausted, Lonely, Yet Happy?
It's a stage of life, no matter who you are.
You woke up today or maybe you never slept at all. You've realize you have hit a stage in your life where you feel totally helpless. You're anxiety is taking over you, you are so focused on everything, yet you're not focused at all.
Maybe for the first time in your life you have decided to remove toxic people, but they were apart of you, no matter how toxic they were; there is now something missing. You're exhausted because you gave your all to those people. You allowed them to change you. You are lonely because you have forgotten who you were and who you are without them. You are isolated because they removed everyone else from your life, and you allowed them to do so. You are happy though, apart of you is relieved; they can no longer hurt you. You are determined to discover yourself. You are about to undergo many challenges; you will start rebuilding and healing yourself all in the process of allowing yourself to let them go.
Or maybe that's not it at all. Maybe you are a young mom, an old mom, or what society says is the perfect age to be a mom. Maybe you woke up today exhausted because you have not slept in months. You have been giving yourself to someone else every single day. For the first time in your life you have been 100 percent selfless. You can't shower alone, you can't eat alone. You can't pee alone. Hell you just can't be alone. You're exhausted mentally and physically because you don't have enough time to recover; you feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders and you're finding it hard to breathe. You're isolated. You are at home carring for your own personal miracle while the world is going on without you. Maybe you don't remember how to communicate with other people, so you decide to stay in, and before you know it you've adapted to always just staying in. Or maybe, your baby is hard, your baby cries more than you would like to admit. You're embarrassed of going out and being judged for not having that perfect smiley baby that you see in movies. you're lonely. Lord knows you are so lonely. How can you be though? You have this perfect little thing you created in front of you, but you're lonely. You have given your all into being a mom you've forgotten who you are besides....a mom. You have spent so many days just being a mother you stopped being anything but just that. You changed, you had too. You had to become 100 percent selfless and in the process you allowed yourself to forget about you. You are lonely but you are happy. You are happy because you have seen a miracle and you will continue to see a miracle every single day. You are happy because there is nothing else in the world that can make you smile quite this much.
You've hit a stage in life. Maybe, you're a dad who feels like he is never doing enough. Maybe, you feel like you're not living up to the expectations it takes to be the perfect father. You feel like you can't compete with your wife, because you'll never be her. You are lonely, you are isolated between work, and home, and no spare time for anything else. You are exhausted because you feel like you can't make everyone happy, and you start to wonder if you even are? While the world focus's on the mother who struggles it forgets to focus on the struggles a man will undergo. He will need to provide, he will need to be there when his wife gets tired, he will need to be okay being second best sometimes, because his baby is breastfed and it seems like his child would want anyone else; other than him. Your friends don't ask how you're holding up, your wife has lost her sex drive and even though it has nothing to do with you, for some reason it's made you insecure. You work, you work, and you work; yet you still feel like it's not enough, but you're happy. Deep down behind the struggle, you know your baby is the greatest gift of all; you are happy.
You have finished high school and moved onto college or maybe university, and you woke up today feeling different. You're exhausted because there is so much work to do and you're struggling to find out if it's even worth it. You aren't guaranteed a job, you have debt that will follow you after, and nobody seems to realize that this is hard on you. It's not just getting drunk, and having a good time; it's the pressure of your future. This is so damn hard on you. You are in control of your life, yet totally not in control at all. What your life becomes after this terribly hard experience is not even guaranteed. You are isolated from your family, and you are isolated from who you use to be. You use to be carefree, you use to not care if you missed a class and decided to go to the beach instead. Now you have to focus, you have to do well. You have too, or this was all for nothing, right? You feel the pressure to love your program because if you don't you'll disappoint someone. You feel so much pressure in having to know that this is what you want; you start to wonder if it even is. You are lonely because in the mix of everything else you forgot to take care of yourself. You are lonely because you are surrounded by people who are all experiencing similar battles, but you are happy. You finally don't have your parents in control of your every move, you've made long term relationships, you are trying to better yourself, and at the end of the day, you are happy.
No matter what is happening in your life, you will go through stages. You might even go through the same stage over and over again. You will be exhausted, you will feel isolated, you will be lonely, but it is so intensely important to remember, you are happy. Through all of the darkness you must remember that this is a stage; it will pass.
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