friendship

C.S Lewis got it right: friendship is born when one person says to another: "What! You too? I thought I was the only one!"

Are We Still Friends.
Here’s the thing. It isn’t a question of if we are friends or not. It’s whether you are ready to take responsibility and acknowledge what happened. I am and I have accepted what happened and healed. But, the thing is that if you want to be in my life you can’t pretend like nothing happened acting like we are all good. Like you didn’t hurt me and like it was all my fault because it wasn't and I think you know that deep down. It doesn’t work like that. I refuse to let it. I would love to be friends. But, I’m not willing to be friends or let you back into my life in any real sense until this happens. My life is here and my friends are here. I don’t need you. I can’t respect or have someone in my life who has wronged me and hurt me who can’t be mature and self aware enough to see their own faults and not to just disappear when things get hard or uncomfortable or they disagree. I've grown past the time in my life when I would accept that. I want more for myself and I owe it to myself to accept only what I deserve. For me, friendship is far more than that and my loyalty has always been there even when yours faltered.
By M F6 years ago in Humans
Stay Connected: How to Keep That Friendship Spark Lit After Moving
It is estimated that most Americans are going to have around three good friends in life. These are people who hang out with each other and share experiences, but this relationship can be put in jeopardy if you move out of state. The following are a few tips to help keep your friendship intact.
By Damien Justus6 years ago in Humans
Great Expectations
People do care about you. They genuinely think about you. Those were my thoughts until recently. I really thought that people genuinely cared about. And when I say people, I mean people other than my parents. They have been with me no matter what and I believe that they always will be. ITs the other I am talking about. The ones we pick and choose to be part of our world. The ones we open up to at one am In the morning talking about our deepest desires and wishes mixed in with our secret fears that are stirred into our night mares. You know, the usual. However, as much as I thought this was something I wanted to believe, the more I realized that we cannot put so much faith into developing movie like relationships with the people in our lives. The media portrays relationships as cute, lively, lovely, rainbow and cupcakes and you know all that fluff. And then when all of a sudden, our best friend doesn’t rush over to our house in the middle of the night to uplift and eat icing with us, we get devastated. We think that people must care about us so much and even if they look away for even a second, we feel betrayed and as if no one understands us. We feel as outcasts. We feel ended. Which I have to be honest, I have very much felt. I always felt like I was constantly being let down by the people in my life and I was angry that they weren’t meeting my expectations. I didn’t understand why. All they had to be was good friends to me. However, I felt as if they never were. I was so self absorbed about how I felt that somewhere along the way I forgot that they were also humans that need space and attention. They were also people who craved being craved. They were us. We were them. We all wanted the same thing. We all wanted someone to care about us so much that they would drop everything and be with us. And this also goes for relationships. We all want that perfect, cute adorable relationship where you sit on each others’ lap, smile, do cute things in public and share the intimacy of a couple in the movies. Everyone wants those things. However, when everyone wants all the same thins, we forget about each other. We forget that the other exist and instead we just get mad at each other for not fulfilling each others fantasies. It is an insane cycle. Which can be indeed broken, with a single action. Let go of your expectations. They aren’t as great as you thought they were. You don’t need something in the movies, you just need real and raw. As soon as you lower your expectations for someone, you no longer hold a bar above their head for which they have to meet in order to be your friend. Just let it go and be a kinder human. Buy some food and give it to them. Make them some jewelry. Invite them over to your house. Do something nice. Lower your expectations. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll find yourself happier with all that weight off your shoulders.
By Manasa R6 years ago in Humans
Knowing When To Let It Go
Easier sang than done, learning to “let it go” is something that many people never completely figure out. The burden of holding on is almost as painful as the emotions that undoubtedly come with the release; and even if you end up liberated, the freedom is bittersweet. The truth is this: the more you invest of yourself into something that doesn’t serve you, whether that is a friendship, a partnership, relationship, or occupation, the more you weigh yourself down. You worry about the impact letting go will have on your life and theirs, along with the influence the decision will have on everyone and everything around you.
By Valerie Taylor6 years ago in Humans
Music Helps You Endure Physical Pain And Heartache
Alex, my friend whom we have known for more than 15 years. We met him at the orphanage in which we both lived. We both do not know who our parents are, but we are very similar to him in character and life position, which allowed us to be friends for a long time.
By Konstantin Kalushniy6 years ago in Humans
To My Best Friend
This is a break up letter to every best friend I’ve ever had, who is no longer part of my life. Everyone has had best friend I’ve had many before you and will have others after you, but you were my person. If I wanted to tell anyone anything, it was you. If I needed advice, I went to you. If I needed to lie to my parents, guess again I came to you.
By Ashley Graham6 years ago in Humans
Jess
It was the first day of university for Jess and she had been worrying about it for weeks. The last few days it was the ONLY thing she could worry about as the date drew nearer and nearer. This was a relief because it meant that she could stop worrying about other things going on in her life. Things such as her ex Riley. He left for uni a few days ago and it kind of felt like another end to her. She pretended that she had moved on when she was with her family and friends, pretended it didn’t hurt when she heard his name and that she didn’t still think about him a lot. Walking across campus she wondered what he was doing now. Whether he had settled in, made any friends. Whether he thought about her at all.
By Sophie Mortimer6 years ago in Humans
To My Best Friend Who Ghosted Me
It was once said, “to give much is to receive much.” Not only is this one of my favorite sayings and the motto associated with my sorority, but it is one I try my hardest to live by.
By Irina Lessne6 years ago in Humans
7 Things You Can Do With Friends Instead Of Scrolling On Social Media
One of the main issues people face these days is the lack of free time. But are we really honest with each other? Do we really have less time or do we just spend it on social media? On average, people spend two hours scrolling on social media. Instead, we should put our phones away and do some fun things with our friends.
By Mianna Korben6 years ago in Humans
An open letter to my ex best friend
You decided we weren't friends anymore without ever telling me. I asked if something was wrong, and you said no every time. But a new distance was there, and I didn't know why. You stopped speaking to me immediately after graduation, and I moved away for college three months later.
By Kay Husnick6 years ago in Humans
Friends
Having a good friend that you can always count on no matter what the circumstances are is truly a blessing. In the times we live in these days it can be hard to find someone that’s 100% loyal.
By Jasmine Trudell6 years ago in Humans
Ain't that shit funny?
You can be the most perfect friend to a person by putting them before yourself in every aspect. You can take it upon yourself to push your own feelings aside in order to fully tend to theirs. The reality of the situation never leads to what your expect or desire it to be; everyone loses.
By Cash6 years ago in Humans