divorce
Divorce isn't an end; it's a different beginning.
Dear Mr. Half Smile
This is to you, the person I never really thought I’d be writing this to at 3 o’clock in the morning. It’s a regular Los Angeles morning in November. A little brisk, but lovely without the rain. Today, our oldest child asked me if I still loved you. I smiled at her, gave her a hug and said, “of course, I do. He gave me you.” Which was the truth but also lead to me sitting in my pajamas in that brisk cool air out on the patio, writing this, coffee in hand.
By An Ex-Wife8 years ago in Humans
Paint Color Can't Erase Me
Dear New Wife, I was shocked when you chose to move into my old home. I realize that you thought you won when I divorced my husband, but I didn't want to be married to someone who cheated on their wife, but that is your problem now. I mean, you cheat on men who have families and wives. He cheats on women who have had four children with him, so you are meant to be together. I don't know how you are able to trust another — but that is not my worry. I am still appalled that you moved into my home.
By Erin Misenar8 years ago in Humans
Left in Sausalito, California
Many years back, I took a trip to San Francisco with my husband. He had a conference in town, so we decided to enjoy a trip. He had told me earlier that he was depressed, so my goal for this trip was to try to squeeze as much fun in as possible to help. He had pretty much checked out at home, and the kids and I didn't really see much of him lately. As if fun solves depression, but that is another story for another time.
By Erin Misenar8 years ago in Humans
When Love Isn't Forever
It was the worst year of my life, other than the year I lost my father. I had acquired a case of trigger thumb in both hands, a condition that causes your thumbs to bend at the joint and they won't unbend. Repeating shingles had plagued me for the past year as well, and finally the shingles virus went up into the nerves in my face, causing facial paralysis on the left side. I couldn't blink and had to cover my eye with cellophane each night so it wouldn't dry out. If that wasn't bad enough, my husband chose this time to have an online affair with a married woman.
By Denise Willis8 years ago in Humans
Post War Divorce
Something I read the other day made me think about the past and just how screwed up it really was at that particular time in my life. I look back at my previous marriages and cringe at the remembrance of some memories. My first marriage didn't really last that long and I was so young that I barely remember most of it. I hardly ever count that one even though it did yield two beautiful children. Now my second marriage.....that was the one I thought would be the death of me. I think one tries harder the second time around because who wants to be a two time loser right? I stayed and took things that I normally wouldn't from anyone else but I think my biggest problem was I could never truly be myself in that relationship. Oh, to the outward appearances we looked to be the perfect couple but behind closed doors it was a totally different story. Many people were shocked to hear we had split up.
By Vanessa Hampton8 years ago in Humans
Divorcing As Friends
Are you considering divorce or breakup, but deeply care about the other person? I have been in two marriages where both parties were going in such different directions that one of us decided that divorce was the only way to move forward.Breaking up is a rather painful process for both parties no matter who initiated the decision for whatever their reasons were.If you are divorcing your best or only friend, it can be particularly daunting. Do what you can to ensure that you have your own friends, and preferably keep close with mutual friends to ease your troubled mind.Some things you can do to make things easier for both of you is to find a way to express that such a situation is unpleasant for both parties. It is actually possible to lean on each other during this transition! If you are your only friends, it is okay to go get coffee at your mutual favorite place. You might be on your phones or reading different parts of the newspaper the whole time, but this being present for each other is still beneficial.In my first marriage, I was not the one to bring up divorce. But I understood where he was coming from. If we weren't romantically happy with each other, we should be available to find that happiness elsewhere.
By Alice Norris8 years ago in Humans
Positive Side of Divorce
Doesn’t it make you smile when you see videos of people who go all out with elaborate marriage proposals? Nice, isn’t it? For about 30 seconds, you think about the day of your wedding and how special you felt. No? Okay. I'll speak for me. I don't think of my divorce—right away—as I’m being happy for a couple in the early stages of their lifetime of love.
By Bonnie Simpson8 years ago in Humans
I Walked Out of My Marriage and Into My Own Life
I never pictured myself alone at 29. I had grand visions of the perfect marriage, the perfect house, the perfect everything. No plans for how to get those things, but I had a vision. I knew what I wanted, and I figured that that was half the battle. But alone at nearly 30, that was never part of the goal.
By Heather Clarke8 years ago in Humans
An Open Letter to My Ex-Husband. Top Story - August 2017.
When it comes to relationships, we stay with people for all kinds of reasons. Those with children say “stay together for the kids.” Some people stay together because they believe if they separate or divorce, their God will frown upon them. Some people stay out of fear, of their life, of other’s perception, of what could happen to them if they’re on their own. People stay and go for all kinds of reasons, but the reasons are usually so they can find a happier, better life.
By Emma Bisel8 years ago in Humans
