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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..

Do Adults Ever Stop Being Children?
Are We Truly Growing Up, or Are We Just Children Pretending to Be Adults? Growing up… The word itself sounds simple, yet truly understanding its meaning is anything but easy. From a very young age, we are taught one repeated sentence: “You need to grow up.” But almost no one asks the real question: “What does growing up actually mean?”
By Nurgul Najafabout 15 hours ago in Humans
Shadows Within
Have you ever felt that quiet pull inside, the one that makes applause feel heavy? That subtle weight in your chest that sits there, not loud, not cruel, just… familiar? It whispers things you already know but hope to ignore: You had help. You copied. You don’t really deserve this. And suddenly, just as you could shine, you shrink. You fold yourself into the moment as if hiding it will make it harmless.
By Gladys Kay Sidorenkoabout 16 hours ago in Humans
The Purpose of Pain
Torture is one of the most uncomfortable subjects humanity avoids talking about. Not because it doesn’t exist. Not because it’s rare.
By mikeabout 20 hours ago in Humans
Are We Letting AI Think for Us — or Teaching It to Think Like Us?
Not long ago, thinking was considered the last truly human frontier. Machines could calculate faster than us, store more information than us, and repeat tasks endlessly—but thinking? That was ours. Messy, emotional, biased, creative, flawed. Human.
By Mind Meets Machineabout 22 hours ago in Humans
The Invisible Script
Most people believe they are living their own lives. They believe their thoughts are theirs. Their desires are theirs. Their opinions are theirs. Their goals are theirs. But if you slow down long enough and really observe, an uncomfortable realization starts forming: a large portion of what we call “ourselves” was handed to us before we ever had a chance to choose. Family expectations, cultural norms, school systems, social media trends, economic pressure, and survival instincts quietly write a script in our minds. By the time we’re old enough to question anything, the script already feels like identity. You don’t remember agreeing to it. You don’t remember signing anything. Yet you wake up every day playing a role that feels strangely familiar, even when it doesn’t feel true.
By mikeabout 22 hours ago in Humans
IS IT EVEN POSSIBLE TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE?
Is it even possible for you to change your life? A lot of people, more than there should be, are unhappy with their lives. But what are they doing about it? Usually nothing. People talk about how shitty their lives are and want change, but are they not taking the actions to change?
By Muhammad Haroon khanabout 24 hours ago in Humans
“The Home That Taught Me How to Live”
I used to think advice only mattered when it was spoken clearly and loudly. I believed wisdom came in long speeches, strict warnings, or dramatic moments. But growing up, I slowly learned something deeper: the strongest advice often comes quietly, through family, through daily actions, and through love that never asks for attention.
By NAIB REHMANa day ago in Humans
The Reality Check: Why Many Women Are Rethinking Their Dating and Life Choices
Dating in your 30s and beyond is forcing a lot of women to confront a truth no one warned them about. For years, the message was clear: focus on your career, enjoy your freedom, don’t rush relationships, and trust that love will fall into place later. But now, many women are discovering that “later” looks very different than expected. The dating pool is smaller, priorities have shifted, and the outcomes promised by modern dating advice aren’t matching real-life experience.
By LaMarion Zieglera day ago in Humans
How Self Awareness Enhances Relationships And Protects Mental Health Balance
The concept of self-awareness means that people can be aware of their feelings, thoughts, and ways of behavior and understand them. Self-awareness in the relationship context enables people to determine the impact of their behavior on their partner and the whole relationship. Recognizing individual triggers, communication patterns/ styles and emotional reactions enables to deal with people wiser, lessening misunderstanding, lessening conflict. Self-understanding will allow people to treat relationships in a more conscious and conscious way, creating healthier relationships that will bring both partners closer.
By Mark Hipster2 days ago in Humans
How Relationship Trauma Can Influence Mental Health And Future Connections
Relationship trauma happens when one incurs a substantial emotional, physical, or psychological damage in intimate relationships. This trauma can be the result of abuse, neglect, betrayal or continuous emotional invalidation. Contrary to single conflicts, relationship trauma has perennial emotional marks which influence an individual perception of trust, intimacy, and safety. It has the potential of interfering with emotional control, where the individuals become hypervigilant or withdrawn in subsequent interactions. As a necessary action to achieve mental health recovery, understanding the existence of relationship trauma and its role in the development of anxiety, depression, and the inability to create safe bonds with others is crucial.
By Willian James2 days ago in Humans
How Relationship Satisfaction Impacts Mental Health And Life Fulfillment Levels
Relationship satisfaction is a concept that defines how well, supported and emotionally stable people are in their relationships. Satisfying relationships offer comfort, trust, and a sense of belonging which are directly helpful in mental health. Emotional attachment decreases loneliness and provides a stable emotional formation. This stability assists people to handle stress more efficiently and at least remain emotionally balanced, which is a positive factor in general wellbeing and life satisfaction.
By Robert Smith2 days ago in Humans
The Slow Poison of Comfort
Comfort feels harmless. It doesn’t look like destruction. It doesn’t smell like danger. It doesn’t announce itself with chaos or violence. It feels soft. Warm. Safe. It feels like rest after a long day. It feels like staying where you are because at least you know what to expect. That’s why comfort is so seductive. It doesn’t force itself on you. You choose it willingly. You choose it every time you avoid a difficult conversation. Every time you delay a goal. Every time you settle for “good enough” even though you know you’re capable of more. Comfort doesn’t attack your life all at once. It slowly replaces your ambition with tolerance. You stop asking for better. You stop imagining bigger. You stop demanding growth from yourself. Not because you’re lazy. But because discomfort feels unnecessary when survival is already handled. And once survival becomes the highest goal, living quietly disappears.
By mike2 days ago in Humans