advice
Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
What is Love?
What is Love? Love is a Balancing Act. It is the greatest answer to life’s “What ifs.” It’s a person’s understanding or acknowledgement, of the risk of investment. Even when the return looks to be, overwhelmingly, defaulting to true pain. It’s the mutual respect of both.
By Ryan C. Hicks8 years ago in Humans
What is Coercive Control?
Your new relationship is great! He really seems to understand you, he wants to be with you all the time, when he isn’t with you he’s always texting, he wants to know all about your life, friends, family and life. He’s charming and loving, he gives you flowers all the time. The relationship moves really fast and you find yourself moving in with him.
By Clare Scanlan8 years ago in Humans
The Truth About Couples Therapy
Having a relationship tends to be a wonderful thing to have whether it's romantic or platonic. Every type of relationship has ups and downs, little bumps in the road. Therefore, we need to face the fact that all relationships have issues. Some are big, some are small but, all issues big or small can eventually lead to the destruction of your relationship. We as humans tend to fixate on relationship issues and a lot of the time turn small issues into big ones.
By JazzyFay West9 years ago in Humans
Life's a Beach...
I love the beach. There is something so amazingly calm about the feel of the sand between your toes and the sound of the water. Calm isn't something that I have honestly had much of in my life. I keep saying life is like a roller coaster full of ups and downs twists and turns. As much as everyone's roller coaster is different they are all the same.
By Claudia Sanders9 years ago in Humans
Pros and Cons of the Single Life
They said being single is like the end of the world. You are alone as you watch couples going down the street hand-in-hand, giggling, cuddling and even showing public displays of affection. It's such a beautiful thing to have, but you can live without having this bond.
By Destiny Abercrumbie9 years ago in Humans
When Stuck on Stupid Becomes a Choice
Many of us place emphasis on not shaming or unnecessarily hurting other people's feelings. While this is a generally good approach for everyday life situations, there are some instances where ignorance is not always innocent. When it manifests as willful ignorance, it should be considered a form of aggression, including passive aggressiveness.
By Fannie LeFlore9 years ago in Humans
Success Is the Very Best Weapon!
If you were to ask somebody for the meaning of success, they would probably define it in terms of money, status, or anything else. According to Wikipedia, it may refer to "attainment of higher social status, achievement of a goal, for example, academic achievement or the opposite of failure." All are correct. No argument from me, but I wish to add one more. It is the refusal to abandon one's personal goal no matter how much another person tries to keep you from reaching your goal. Once you can stick to your goal, despite the negativity, you can achieve success by all definitions.
By Maurice Bernier9 years ago in Humans
Dear 35-Year-Old Me
I hope you’re happy. Finally, after years and years of talking down to yourself, not thinking you’re deserving of love, or interaction or even a kind word from others—to think you’re not worth the attention of someone who clearly thinks you are—finally, I hope you’re happy. I hope you’ve listened to the people who told you were kind, and who told you that you made them smile, or that they continued doing something because you believed in them. I hope you still believe in people; I hope that after all the bad experiences you’ve had with the wrong people, it hasn’t clouded the fact that the world is full to the brim of lovely, lonely, vibrant and amazing people—and you love making a connection with them. And, to a lesser degree, I hope you’ve realised that when people told you that you were attractive, pretty, beautiful, etc., you don’t have to explain to them why you’re not. You’re not up your own arse for accepting kindness. Yeah, life’s not about being a piece of art, or attracting others, or people fancying you—but it’s not about berating your appearance either. Sometimes, it’s okay to feel good about yourself, and sometimes it’s okay to spend money on looking good. I hope you realise how lucky you are that you had the body you had (and put no effort into). And I hope one day you look at pictures of yourself and realise that you were beautiful.
By Pixie Alannah-Wilde9 years ago in Humans
Polyamory Is Not Cheating
When I tell people that I am engaged in a polyamorous relationship, I get a wide variety of reactions. Often I hear "what does that mean?" or "I could never do that." However, perhaps most often, people ask me, "Isn't that just an excuse to cheat?"
By J.C. Marie9 years ago in Humans
An Open Letter to the Women Who Can Never Be Single
Dear Relationship Addict, I get it. I really do. Everyone wants to be loved by someone. When others call you beautiful or say "I love you" or tell you how special you are, it makes you feel valued. The fact that you've impressed someone enough to make them want to date you provides a kind of validation. You’re pretty enough. You’re interesting enough. You’re worth noticing.
By Taylor Markarian9 years ago in Humans
