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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
Burning Bridges
Toxic People. They are everywhere and they can be anyone. Anyone at all. Sometimes they're friends, family, even a spouse or a boyfriend/girlfriend. They aren't easy to live with, in fact they can be outright impossible to live with or even be around, but we put up with them. Why? Why do we put up with people that absolutely suck the life out of us? When we meet new people and don't hit it off, we have no problem cutting them out and forgetting about them...so why is it so hard to get rid of people who make us miserable? We put up with friends who pressure us to do things we don't want, who make us feel bad if we say no to something or even the ones who are nowhere in sight when we need them, but god forbid we aren't there when they need us. We keep toxic parents in our lives and let them bully, guilt trip, degrade, and destroy us! It's the same story with spouses and boyfriends/girlfriends...we let them walk all over us and dictate our lives and then we sit there and wonder why we're miserable. We vent to our friends and family and then don't listen when they tell you to get out. These leeches...they take and they take and we sit there and let them. When does it finally click and become enough? When do we stand up for ourselves. I'll tell you when...It's when we realize that we have our faces in the dirt that these people have brought in. When we have that epiphany and wake up, that's when we stand up. We face these people head on and we call them out. In the end...we may end up looking like the asshole and that is OK. Just as long as we wake up to the people in our lives who don't deserve us, who treat us like shit and then play the victim. We can make it out of these relationships and survive. We can be happy and free of the guilt that the toxicity makes you feel. We just have to learn to say no more.
By Bethany Winters8 years ago in Humans
Questions to Ask on a First Date
Dating can be awkward. In fact, it totally is awkward — especially if it's online dating. You're meeting some random person you picked off the net for coffee, and you're supposed to act like you've known each other for ages. Or, something. It's hard to tell with modern dating.
By Jules Fortman8 years ago in Humans
Subtle Issues That Destroy Relationships. Top Story - November 2017.
Most people are fully aware of the catastrophic issues that sink relationships, such as cheating and lying. These will generally spark very emotional reactions, and many times the relationship is killed right there on the spot. Romantic relationships can be tricky to navigate, and there may be little things you're constantly doing that are causing your relationship to die a slow and painful death.
By Lizzie Boudoir8 years ago in Humans
Helpful First Date Tips for Men
Guys, we need to talk about the way you behave on a date. It's a new era, and just having a nice shirt won't make the cut anymore. Though dating is never easy, there are some things you can do to make the dating world a little more affable to you.
By Jules Fortman8 years ago in Humans
What to Expect When Moving in with Your Partner
Whether you wait 6 years or 6 days to move in with a partner, you will learn a lot about them and yourselves as a couple. I moved in with my partner pretty much after 3 weeks but “officially” 3 months. AKA I moved EVERYTHING from my mum's house to his.
By Ciarra Graham8 years ago in Humans
What's In A Name?
About six months ago, I started a new journey in my life. I changed my name. I stopped going by the name I have had for 25 years and have started going by a new name. I changed my name on Facebook and I have started the process of changing my name legally.
By Ashling Casey8 years ago in Humans
7 Flirting Rules Every Single & Married Woman Should Know
It doesn't matter if you're single, dating, or married, flirting is something that never gets old. It's an art form, an aphrodisiac, a dance between two people that communicates attraction and desire. Now, for single chicks, flirting is an essential part of your dating life. I mean, come on now, you're not picking a man up by sitting in a bar stool, looking at your phone with a MEH emoji expression on your face the whole night. Sure, there is always the creepy, desperate guy that will probably try boning the bar stool if you turn him down, but who wants that? In order to get noticed, you have to play the game. The looks, the body language, the witty conversation are all part of the line, sink, and hook mission.
By Jus L'amore8 years ago in Humans
Dear 13-Year-Old Me
Dear 13-Year-Old Me, Oh, how you’ve changed. You’re not going to believe the places that you have been to, or the people you have seen. Your life is going to be so different to how you planned it. You want stardom and all of the riches the world can offer, but you will soon realise just what it means to have all of things you could ever dream of, and it will be far different to anything you’re imagining right now.
By Jenna Edwards8 years ago in Humans
How to Tell If He's Cheating on You
We can't help but confess that there are certainly times in a relationship that we can sense our partner is cheating on us. Whether he's going out more than hanging with you, or he's hiding his phone from you, there are definitely signs that he actually is seeing someone else. It's sad to say, but it's true.
By Lizzie Boudoir8 years ago in Humans
How To Be the Best Girlfriend
To be the best at anything, one must find a balance. Too much or too little of something can be the deciding factor between being the best and being the worst. First and foremost, it is important to be whole in regards to yourself: do not look unto your boyfriend to fill a void within yourself or somehow “complete” you, as it will only strain your relationship by putting unnecessary pressure on both of you. It's important that you have your own group of friends, hobbies, likes and dislikes. Once you have those things in place, it's important to keep up with them once you are in a relationship as well; don't all of a sudden forget about your life while living your partner's life. Knowing the correct balance is a key factor in any relationship, and by taking out the time to nurture your own likes you will actually make your bond stronger, giving each other time to miss one another. Although it sounds quite obvious, many of us forget that real love is not selfish. So just to remind ourselves: we should always love from the heart and love unselfishly, even if it is not in our favor at that moment. It's what real love is all about. Of course, our egos' may resist, but we must always be in control of our mind and our emotions, we must strive to be rational and of sound mind. As I am sure many of you already know, jealousy is the worst human quality to possess and it can break even the strongest of relationships. To be the best girlfriend your boyfriends could ever ask for, it is super important that you always trust your boyfriend whether it be his words or his actions. Otherwise, do him the favor of walking away, because without trust there is no relationship. And if you can't trust the person closest to you, who can you really trust ? Even if there have been times in the past that have led to you be skeptical or question his actions or words, the fact that you decided to stay means you have to leave everything in the past, and start fresh. You can't use the past as an excuse for you to question every word coming out of his mouth. You will only drive yourself crazy with the countless "what ifs" and make him feel like he constantly has to explain himself, even when he is doing nothing wrong. Try to be understanding as opposed to demanding, and give without expecting something in return. It is important that you be genuine in your actions, whatever you do, because he will sense the level of sincerity in your actions. Be patient and kind: someone your boyfriend can turn to without feeling judged. Be someone you, yourself, would want to be around. Have things in common: hobbies and interests to share and discuss, just as either of you would have with your own friends. Don't complain: if you don't like something, do something about it. Don't just talk about it endlessly: change can only happen when you take action. Be confident in the love you share. Don't make waves in hopes of getting a reaction to prove your boyfriend loves you, like making him jealous. Many times we want something from our boyfriend and instead of just coming out and saying what is that we want, we prefer to drop little hints here and there: hints that, more often than not, go unnoticed or, even worse, are completely misunderstood. Communication is key in any relationship, romantic or otherwise. It is important to be able to be straight up with your significant other and speak up when something bothers you. Dropping hints that they may or may not pick up is immature and only wastes time you could have spent together cuddling or laughing and enjoying each others company. Instead you're upset, and he's busy trying to figure out what made you upset when he could use that time to hash it out and move forward, leaving it in the past. Be confident in yourself and the kind of girlfriend you are, and he will have no choice but to do the same.
By Erika Potap8 years ago in Humans
