Honest perspective

These random thoughts are flowing inside, a different point of view, something, unlike the rest. Discontent erupts from the simple observations of the world.

Men talk amongst themselves about how difficult women are, how quickly women are to write men off as creepy, or stalker-like. They discuss women are sluts or whore, or any other distasteful word to refer to a sexually active woman. Though at young ages, girls are sexualized, slowly being shown, their worth if anything is that of a sexual nature, women’s primary purpose is to please and breed for a man. Made fun of for being virgins or prude.

When does this change? When do girls go from being mocked for the lack of sex to disrespected because they participate.? Do men realize that for them to be getting laid, there are women that are also enjoying regular sex on the other side of the interaction?

Yes, women play games, lie, and cheat just the same as men; wrongdoing is not limited to one or the other. Women, just like men, desire sex and sometimes go about it the wrong way. Sex is a natural animal instinct, and we, as humankind, are animals with needs and desires. Do people realize that a lot of sexually abused individuals revert to inappropriate sexual behavior to survive what? To feel some form of control in a life that has been so out of control. You mock not understanding that the reality, the truth is you have no idea what a person has been through or why they do the things they do in their life. Unless a man or woman is lying or cheating about it, why does it matter if sex is enjoyable to men and women alike? If a person is kind-hearted, honest, and lovely, why do you care how many sex partners they have had in their life, maybe 1, or 5, or 35. That is that person’s right to do what they desire with their body.

Some food for thought:

My inside perspective:

Women are expected to shave, remain fit, have homemaker skills, all to fit into a man’s idealizes. A woman is expected to live up to the mother’s expectations of when a woman was able to remain at home, taking care of the house and the children. Now women are lucky to keep there home in one piece. Many jokes or remarks are made about women having multiple baby fathers. However, let us not forget that to keep a happy home, the man and the women must work together. A woman has multiple baby’s fathers because of father’s fathering numerous babies with various partners. Look at the age gap when comparing father and mother and different partners. Yes, it is correct to say a good portion of women are possible “homewreckers.’ However, it is also right to state that men lie and open the door for women to come in and separate the issue. They lie about the family at home; they lie about the stress of a relationship all for the pure desire of putting it somewhere other than home. Women want to blame the random girl; maybe it makes the truth a little more bearable to blame another, an individual outside the home. Yes, sometimes it is because someone cannot or will not take no for an answer, but other times it is because they do not know or do not have the full story, or the truth.

I have been both the women a man cheats with, and the women cheated on,

My daughter was conceived with a man who was married, a story I never learned the full truth of until it was far too late. I believed the words he told me. He left me shortly after learning about my pregnancy. Acting as though I was nothing more than a faint memory. A mistake he had made that could be erased with a few angry words and a change of ZIP code. I allowed him to delete my daughter and me from his life. Something I will always regret not only for my sake but for leaving my daughter confused and missing an essential part of her life.

From there, I met a man whom I married quickly. I blame the pregnancy brain openly for the decision made at this point in my life. A man that I did nothing but fight or ignore. We played board games and cooked to avoid any actual conversations. He chose to put his name on my daughter’s birth certificate, knowing she was not his. We separated after a miscarriage and three random girlfriends of his. My best friend had killed himself, and the stress of his death and my husband’s infidelity was more than I could handle.

I am a part of two different types of lying men. Yes, many say that I deserved this from my husband after conceiving my daughter and trust me. I have personally cursed my self with every different terrible story there could be. I do not, at any point in my story, deny the mistakes I made. from the choices I have chosen.

At some point, women and men need to realize that the lies they tell and the pain they cause is not easily washed away. Though, we all wish it were so easy.

The point of this is to acknowledge that life is not always the way we expect, and before judging a book by its cover, we all must look at our cover, our own stories. Furthermore, remember there is always more than one side to every story. There is always a reason for someone to be who they are whether you agree or not, it is not your life to judge, because you are not the person who has to live with the choices made.