Contamination Of A Narcissist In A Community during holidays

December 19, 2025, I got woken up around 10:15 pm in my city. 100 cops' cars were racing across the city. I went to look out my window while my daughter slept during her college school break visit with me.

It was either a theft, a car chase, or domestic violence. It was domestic violence. Three cops were injured, the new boyfriend was injured, and the ex-boyfriend, the narcissist, was killed in the process.

The ex-boyfriend, trauma respond from the break up was anger outburst and explosive behavior. The ex-boyfriend brought an illegal gun to his ex-girlfriend's house. The new boyfriend had a gun permit and tried to defend their home. He was shot in the process. The ex-boyfriend tried to get away, and the police arrived and started chasing the suspect. The suspect started shooting the police officers who were chasing him, and the suspect ended up shooting three police officers in the chest area.

The other police officers ended up killing the suspect in the process.

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This incident triggered post-traumatic stress because I had the same issue in the past. When I separated from my narcissist, I made sure his shotgun was removed through order protection. My ex-husband was trying to get a gun permit at that time. It was my woman's intuition that he could possibly use it to kill me. I had an order of protection before we separated.

My brothers wanted to beat him up because of the abuse my ex-husband did to me. I told my brothers not to retaliate against my ex-behavior. It was not worth my brothers getting in trouble for someone like my ex-husband.

I remained single for two years after the divorce, because I knew my ex- husband was still going to stalk me. He would leave stuff in my car to bring fear into me. I had no proof that he was the one getting in my car. He would not return my car spare key, and the judge said they cannot make him even if the car was in my prenup. (He would have taken my car if it was not in my prenup.)

I prayed my ex-husband would get a girlfriend soon after, so I would not fester in his brain. It is hard not to react to a narcissist if you are living with them.

You can start the process of detoxing from a narcissist's contamination after removing yourself physically from their life. It does not happen overnight because you lose yourself in that toxic relationship. You have to redefine who you are and rebuild your foundation. Your goal in life changes after being in a dysfunctional relationship, especially when children is involved.

I knew my ex-husband was abused when he was young. His mother is constantly throwing his stuff away and enabling him by letting him depend on her financially. My ex-mother-in- law, have her own trauma. Her Ex-husband cheated on her. They started a business together, and her ex-husband ended up owning it. She had resentment.

Dysfunction in a relationship can be a cycle. Everyone responds to trauma differently. I read a lot of self help book. Some stay stuck in the cycle because it's normal for them to be dysfunctional. Some people numb themselves by having addictions.

It is important to know your triggers, so you know how to respond to it in a healthy way—having healthy hobbies and balancing your life goals. Journaling and therapy help detoxify the contamination from an unhealthy relationship.

Trauma can come from anywhere; stay resilient in life because you are worthy. Everyone deserves to be loved without the toxic part of it all.

Note: I would not been able to write this kind of article 10 years ago, it shows how far I have healed from that dysfunctional relationship.