divorced

Sometimes a good divorce is better than a bad marriage.

Series of Letters from the Other Woman, the Wife, and the Ex-Husband
Sometimes when there is infidelity in a marriage, there are confessions from the cheating spouse as well as from those involved in the affair. Below are letters that originated with a confession from "the other woman" to the wife. There is a response from the wife to the other woman. Next, there is a letter from the wife to her ex-husband, and finally a letter from the ex-husband to the ex-wife. In all, there are a total of four letters from four people whose lives were changed forever because of an affair.
By Margaret Minnicks4 years ago in Families
Divorced wronged children, do not divorce wronged himself, how should choose?
What are the short - and long-term effects of divorce on children? Domestic research on this subject is rare, but it is often arbitrary and taken for granted that children are given to economically advantaged fathers. In the United States, because many studies show that children need careful care and psychological security during their formative years, women are seen as better equipped to fill these roles. As a result, 85 per cent of divorced women receive custody of their children. But divorced women often feel angry, depressed and miserable after a divorce. At the same time, feelings of grievance and loneliness often bring them into a low emotional state, as friends and relatives of the original family hardly communicate with each other anymore. In addition, more than half of divorced women are in significantly poorer financial situations than before, so they often have to choose to move to less favourable environmental conditions. In this case, the mother's emotional instability often leads to tension between mother and child, with the mother becoming anxious, irritable, impatient, less sensitive to her children, and even taking strict discipline. On the other hand, divorced men can be emotionally depressed for a while, especially if the divorce was unintentional and they feel their children have been taken from them. Non-custodial fathers are often overly indulgent and submissive in brief encounters with their children out of compensation and other complex psychological factors. Thus, it can be seen that adults' maladjustment to divorce is the main reason why children in single-parent families are prone to deviant behaviors. Therefore, the maturity of parents' personality should be the primary consideration for children's arrangement. At least two long-term studies have shown that girls in single-parent families usually recover emotional and social stability from divorce within two years, while boys are still unable to fully adjust to their new family type after two years. In other words, the impact of parental divorce on boys seems to be stronger and more persistent than that on girls, with boys showing higher levels of anxiety about their parents' emotional distress even before the divorce. However, such findings may reflect the effects of divorce on the children of American families, forced separation from their fathers, and a sudden loss of identity among boys. That is to say, in the case of our country, where mothers are generally separated, the results are likely to show that parental divorce has a greater impact on girls than on boys. In addition, both studies used emotional distress and problem behavior as indicators of adaptation, ignoring women's delicate inner feelings. When we compare the fact that girls in divorced families have more premarital sex than girls in two-parent families, and are more insecure about their heterosexual relationships, it is clear that the effects of divorce on boys and girls are not the same and cannot be identified by a single indicator. Boys may be more in need of someone to identify with, and girls may be more in need of intimacy. It's worth noting that empirical studies have shown that both boys and girls fare better with same-sex parents than with opposite-sex parents. In terms of age, the younger the child, the more difficult it is to overcome the psychological impact of parental divorce. Children tend to feel guilty about their parents' divorce. Therefore, whether the children are with their parents or with their parents, divorced parents should pay more attention to their young children to avoid their loss of confidence in others and themselves. The EMPIRICAL STUDY ALSO HAS a significant implication: WHEN CHILDREN FROM DIVORCED FAMILIES ARE ABLE TO TALK TO EACH OTHER and COMFORT EACH OTHER, THEY are generally more ABLE TO cope positively with the new situation. In other words, compassionate understanding may be the psychological support a child needs the most. But even if divorce is inevitable for children, it is impossible to conclude in support of the conventional wisdom that unhappy marriages should be endured for the sake of children. Because it is actually adults' emotions and neglect of children after divorce that cause harm to children's development. Therefore, a family in a state of cold war or quarrel for a long time, even if it does not divorce, will also make children in a long period of anxiety and pain, which is worse than a healthy and happy single-parent family. In fact, children's troubled behaviors after their parents' divorce often appear when their parents' marriage has problems, and divorce is not the direct factor. And they need to become strong, inappropriate divorce is the best choice, at the same time they need to cultivate independent personality charm, be ready to be single for a long time, to set a good example for children.
By xiaohu4 years ago in Families
A double affair
Whether she has me in her heart Liang Xin, tall and strong, was sitting on a sofa in the consulting room, his dark face obscured by the floor lamp. "I've been with my wife for 10 years, but I always knew she wasn't my true love. She has a bad temper and is too practical to understand me. Although she runs the house in perfect order, I feel no tenderness in her. I was no longer attracted to her in any way. Married life remained stagnant, but peaceful... Until I met a girl I went to college with. The female student's temperament, speech and opinions are all the most appreciated by Liang Xin, and his humor and truth also deeply moved her. Although they both had separate families, the passion of their perfect fit engulfed them. "We both thought about getting divorced and getting together, but... She finally gave up and said she couldn't let the baby down." Although broke the idea together, Liang Xin still hopes to be able to continue to keep in touch with female classmates however. But when he asks her out, she always refuses, but when he doesn't contact her, she calls in the middle of the night regardless. "I heard she and her husband are back together. I'm not in a position to hold her to any promises, but, uh, what exactly is she feeling about me right now? If she doesn't have me in her heart, then these late-night phone calls and missing wechat are all cheating me? If she cares about me, why is she doing this to me? Oh, Miss Cao, what do you say I should do now? Kungfu master Gu Long once said, "Even if a man has 1000 women, he still hopes that he is the only man among them." Here, perhaps, lies the source of the pangs of conscience. I told him that if he wanted to save his marriage, and himself, he would have to slowly work to clear his psychological boundaries and get the two intersecting lines back on track. Liang Xin nodded vigorously to show that he understood. When Liang Xin came again, the expression on his face was painful and fanatical. As soon as I sat down, he hurriedly told me about his interactions with female classmates these days, down to the wording of a wechat message and a sigh on the phone. As he explained how he felt about these reactions, he asked me to answer whether they meant that the female classmates still had him in their hearts. It did look like a man in love, but I felt very confused, a vague feeling that something was wrong, so I asked Liang Xin about his family of origin. Liang Xin was born in the prosperous merchant's home, carefree from childhood, but one day of 6 years old, the mother suddenly does not say goodbye, never appeared. Every time he asked his father about his mother, his father would become angry and tell him that his mother was a bad woman who had abandoned him cruelly and told him not to think about her. Gradually, Liang Xin stopped crying and dared not ask questions. After his mother left, Liang Xin's aunt came home to take care of him. Aunt had his family originally, but did not bear children all the time, regard him as his own son like raise, divorced with the husband even finally, concentrate on taking care of Liang Xin. Because of his aunt, Liang Xin did not suffer the pain of losing his mother's love, and after he grew up, he did not think about looking for his mother again, although in recent years, I heard that his mother had resumed contact with the family. Liang Xin was obsessed with making sure that his female classmates did not have him in their hearts, which seemed to be much more possessive than Mr. Gulong described. What's behind it? An unusual extramarital affair this consultation, Liang Xin's face more than a few points of negative color, just a sit down, began to fire off the female classmate is not: when he ignored her, she took micro channel trumpet plus him. He proposed to get along well like friends, usually have time to make a call, occasionally out to eat a meal, female students and hesitant, timid. "I used to think she was graceful and wise and tolerant, but now she's nothing more than a stupid woman who can't get rid of her! What's it like to get back together or just be friends?" Liang Xin shouted angrily, his eyes blazing with light
By lidi4 years ago in Families
After a couple divorces, who regrets the most? The truth hurts...
Two days ago, I saw a data on the Internet: The survey found that about 54% of people feel regret after divorce. Regardless of whether this data is accurate or not, in my background messages, there are many readers who regret their divorce.
By david4 years ago in Families
The 38-year-old female doctor urgently needs 800,000 yuan in the terminal stage of cancer. Her husband begs for divorce: please let me go
"You let me live!" In August 2020, in a hotel in Zhengzhou, a man knelt on the ground in front of a room full of people, begging his wife for a divorce in pain and tears.
By david4 years ago in Families
Becoming Sadly Single At 50 (part three)
. Part 2 is here, https://todaysurvey.life/humans/becoming-sadly-single-at-50-part-two , SADLY ALONE AT 50 part 3 The rise of the buried rancid puss!
By Ross E Fortune Lombardi4 years ago in Families
My very good wife cheated on me for some reason, but she didn't want to divorce me, and she didn't want to forgive me
My wife, whom I have known for 10 years, was introduced by the matchmaker. I was 20 years old at that time, and my wife was 19 years old. I got married a year later! My parents are engaged in the business of selling home appliances. In recent years, due to the encroachment of e-commerce, the business has been very bad, so I switched to another business. I am very enterprising, and after about 15 years, I earn 3.5 million yuan every year. Then parents business is not good (a variety of reasons) mother's brain surgery in the hospital, I was 24 years old or so, very foolish filial piety took money intermittent subsidies for parents, my wife and I were arguing for many years, (when I was a very foolish filial piety, the father did it is not down to business, I also give money to household) (the wife of the early to see father is what kind of person, He kept telling me not to keep giving money like this, but I just didn't listen to him for a few years and kept giving money until 2015.
By jackzhang4 years ago in Families
Very regretful, should not go to male classmate's party, husband really want to divorce, how to do?
Right now I'm all messed up. My husband and I went to college together and have been married for exactly twenty years. The kid went to college this year, which was supposed to be the second easy two of us. But now life is messy.
By jackzhang4 years ago in Families
Tips to Protect Your Children When Going Through A Divorce
Going through a divorce is challenging. There are so many mixed emotions that may be going through your head. That being said, it can be even harder on your children. Their whole life is changing, and it is our fault. They didn't choose this. You did.
By Shelley Wenger4 years ago in Families
How Family Mediation Lawyers Can Help
Family law mediation is a way for separated or divorcing spouses to work together to solve their problems and keep a friendly relationship. In this method, a neutral third party is present at meetings and helps the two people agree on all issues related to the end of the relationship.
By Deborah Ferguson4 years ago in Families
Kinder Than the Lightning
“Come in,” she said, “I’ll give you shelter from the storm.” —Bob Dylan I Coming into the place, Toppers, from a light drizzle, I ran my hand through my damp hair, took a seat next to my friend Cecilia and ordered a Hopadillo from Marianne, behind the bar.
By Conrad Ilesia4 years ago in Families
Life imitating fiction
Hi I'm Toni Song, freelance musician and fledgling author. When my family and I lived in China for awhile I took up writing fiction just for fun. As I wrote about my character Sasa, a Chinese woman living in America, I never imagined that my own life would start to mirror that of my character. It did and this is my story.
By Toni McGuire4 years ago in Families