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Anguish as a Second Language

Certain Thoughts on a Difficult Year...

By Kendall Defoe Published about a year ago Updated about a year ago 3 min read
Top Story - November 2024
Anguish as a Second Language
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So...

Jake Paul beat Mike Tyson; Taylor Swift is beating Toronto into submission...and I am looking at the end of another semester.

Usually, I would feel as if I could write something funny and make you all imagine that I love my job despite all the problems and nonsense I've dealt with over several semesters. That was my plan. But now, it feels like this passing year won't allow it. It feels as though I have to be honest about my real feelings over work.

This year has wrecked me.

It is not that I have had to deal with worse students than usual, or that the administration at the college is issuing demands for the classes that cannot be met. What is bringing me down is the general mood of things in the classroom. Yes, I said that the students are no worse than before, but they are no longer even bothering to show up for lessons. I have had the experience of walking into classes on days when we have had tests or presentations to find that there is not a single soul in the room. And I am not alone in this. Other teachers are finding that the students we now have are not worse at doing the work; they are just indifferent. This is all across the board in every type of class. I handle languages and writing, but I know that the ones handling computer science and law are also dealing with the same problem.

Is it a problem of tech addiction? Is it due to the stress of knowing that the government has changed the rules for our international students? Or do they just not like me? I would like to select the latter, but students - the ones who have bothered to appear - have told me that they do like me and that they appreciate the effort I make. But nothing more.

Teaching is a performance. You are an entertainer, an instructor, a guide, and often a counselor. If the audience or subject does not respond to you, you only have a part of your job done. It is a give and take that needs to have both sides in play. I never wanted to be like the professors and teachers I had in school who were so completely indifferent to the attitude of their students that they could give a three-hour lecture without asking any questions or responding to the yawns and eye rolls in front of them. I need to read the room and I hope to not leave anyone behind...but this is hard to do.

I was once asked what was the hardest part of my job. I was honest and said that dealing with the administration was the biggest challenge. Some of the interrogators were quite surprised by this. They thought that dealing with the students would be the biggest obstacle. But I like being in the classroom. I enjoy the usual atmosphere of questioning and answering that I need to feel that I have done my job. That is better than anything I have seen on a personal assessment or paycheque.

But what do I do when that is not there?

What is my job now?

She knew it...

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  • Mike Singleton 💜 Mikeydred 11 months ago

    Sorry to hear about your bad year, but know you are still producing excellent work

  • Lost In Writingabout a year ago

    But the picture at the end reminds me of what we do as Writers. We invest so much effort, performing as well, and yet these days, people people can't even properly read graphical adverts, much less read a long-form article. I don't know about US but down here I hear of university professors being called to the office to "up" the grade of certain students who don't put enough effort. It is very sad, and disturbing as well.

  • Lost In Writingabout a year ago

    Apparently Insights has disappeared from the site. Or maybe the Vocal app needs much improvement. With the Medium & Substack app you can write, Vocal's app is only a reader.

  • Gregory Paytonabout a year ago

    Congratulations on top story!!!!

  • Natalie Wilkinsonabout a year ago

    I’m sorry your year has been so hard. Everything seems more difficult these days. It would be interesting to do a survey and find out why students aren’t showing up. I remember my daughter having a required class that conflicted with another one semester. The only way she could stay on her graduation track was to have a friend tape the lectures for her when she couldn’t be there. I’m sure Covid disrupted life for the next decade too. Almost all the kids I know that started a degree program in those years dropped out of school and haven’t gone back. I feel lucky Spring 2020 was my daughter’s last semester- which she completed at home. The world has completely changed.

  • Raihana H.about a year ago

    Interesting to see from a teacher's perspective. It is hard being a teacher these days. That is why I admire teachers that genuinely care about their students. I'm sorry that this year was hard. I hope it gets better next session 🙂

  • The Dani Writerabout a year ago

    Wow Kendall, that is quite sobering! Classrooms represent one of those "Canary in the Cage" moments, but it feels like nobody is acting on the direness of the scenario and coming up for air. Sincere gratitude for your heartfelt sharing ❣

  • Holly Pheniabout a year ago

    You put into words so well what I have tried to find the words for. I see so many indifferent students, there is an epidemic of apathy. I have always felt that I was pretty good at fostering positive connections in the classroom, but much of what I'm seeing has me sad for this generation. Optimism and hope are the reason to continue. That hope that you reach at least some. A veteran educator friend of mine put it this way. If they don't seem to be taking it to heart now, realize it is making an impact you might never know. We are planting seeds for their tomorrows.

  • Melissa Ingoldsbyabout a year ago

    You're incredibly relatable even tho I'm a stay at home parent lol

  • Paul Stewartabout a year ago

    Thought I had commented! sorry your year has been so trying, can only imagine how you feel! Im glad you put the jokes to one side and shared this eloquent piece of writing with us! Congrats on Top Story and hope it was at least helpful a little to get out there!

  • ThatWriterWomanabout a year ago

    I am so sorry this year was so hard for you Kendall. Never feel pressure to be funny or brush it off - you're allowed to feel it! I really hope things improve soon. On a writer's note: excellently written and flows very well haha

  • Feel this Kendall. So much. I love being in the classroom, admin not so much, There has definitely been a shift towards apathy in recent years - not disruptive as such just soul destroying. It's human nature to be curious...yet...IDK Anyway, I hope you have a better next semester and things shift again. Most things in ed. and life are a cycle 💜c

  • NJabout a year ago

    reading this after speaking to a friend who is a teacher. a sad state to read about. my friend is planning to retire early - if she can hold out another few years. A student threw a basketball at her, and missed her head by less than an inch. She mentioned the constant disruptions, lack of attention, and overall disrespect.

  • Qurat ul Ainabout a year ago

    Your honesty captures the struggles of modern education. Keep holding onto your passion—students may not show it now, but your effort leaves a lasting impact.

  • Snarky Lisaabout a year ago

    I was kind of expecting something less serious when I started reading this piece, but it got more depressing as it went on. I hope things get better for you.

  • Cindy Calderabout a year ago

    Teaching is an entirely different realm of profession these days. Unlimited paperwork requirements, administrative demands, and unrealistic goals and standardized testing have slowly lead to a demise of the profession and a decrease in interested students. Very sad indeed, and I am very sorry you are having to contend with such things at such a crucial and pivotal time (for both you and students alike).

  • Cathy holmesabout a year ago

    So, do they expect they'll are get their degree/diploma anyway so they can't be bothered?

  • Alexandria Stanwyckabout a year ago

    I am sorry you have deal with this. I've never been a teacher, but I have volunteered at the school in the past (pre-COVID). I've always admired the teachers because they have to deal with so much and they do so while sacrificing so much of themselves. Kids and adults, people in general, are not easy to deal with, but it sucks that you are losing the interaction with the kids thanks to online schooling and apathy. But just to reiterate, I appreciate everything you teachers do to try and teach your students. Thank you.

  • Rachel Robbinsabout a year ago

    I haven't done classroom teaching for a while now, but this sounds dispiriting. I taught on a social work course which had an attendance requirement to access the bursary, but even that couldn't guarantee students would turn up. I feel bad for the students because the face to face teaching really is the best part of their academic life. Hope it turns a positive corner soon.

  • Denise E Lindquistabout a year ago

    I found someone to replace me last year. I was adjunct. It was all online with very little face to face contact. Left over from the pandemic. Students didn't seem to mind. A few chose to do no f-2-f, even though it was for points. They took a B rather than add those few points to push them into an A. The class was more independent study. I didn't like it as I am used to groups, face to face, and interaction, not just me saying what needs to be done and having it come in with little to no direction. It's sad!

  • Shirley Belkabout a year ago

    Kendall, I taught nursing students in both classroom and clinical. Our program also saw this as a trend. I don't think we should take it personally, per se because it's a different world now. Students often prefer online studies. Engaging and inspiring students is our calling, so I get it. But it was difficult for me to sit through classes back in the 90s before the internet. I retained more when I sat home with my book, read, and highlighted with a yellow marker. I feel their struggle, not that I didn't appreciate the efforts of good teachers...My office door was always open if and when they needed me. Hope it all gets better for you soon.

  • S. A. Crawfordabout a year ago

    This sounds like an incredibly tough situation - I can imagine it's hard not to take such apathy personally!

  • Hope Martinabout a year ago

    I cant edit my origininal comment - another theory is that it could be a financial issue. People are dropping out because it's unreasonable for us to go into debt anymore for higher education... that higher education does not help us get paid more at the end. They claim it does, but it doesn't. I would know from personal experience. I honestly doubt that you have anything to do with it - you're awesome.

  • Hope Martinabout a year ago

    teaching is hard. Not for the faint of heart. And they are dramatically underpaid. Thank you for caring about your students. There should be more teachers who do this. You are doing amazing just keep hanging in there

  • Lightning Bolt ⚡about a year ago

    My father was a teacher. When I was young, I always thought I'd be a teacher. It didn't work out. :-/ I admire you for your chosen profession. And I appreciate you writing about it here! ⚡♥️⚡

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