Building and Sustaining Good Relationship

We all go through relationships in our lives and it goes through many ups and down throughout the time. Whether a relationship is new or its existing for years, commitment and the willingness to change for your partner and to adopt the change with your partner are the key factor that are necessary for a healthy relationship.

Two terms are often discussed when talking about a good relationship i.e. chemistry and compatibility. Chemistry is the emotional connection that you feel with your partner. Its the fundamental power that creates the intimacy between partners and is the foundation of love between the two partners. Compatibility is when you have alike goals, values and vision for life. Both, chemistry and compatibility goes along side by side in a healthy relationship. If both partners are only having chemistry, but not the compatibility, the relationship is expected to be short term. And if only compatibility exists in relationship, the resultant relationship might be dry, passionless and boring. So, both chemistry and compatibility is needed for a good and healthy relationship.

There are other things that are also needed for a long term good and healthy relationship. One of the key thing is 'change'. As is all fields of life, change is inevitable and only the people who best adopt the change succeeds. Similar thing applies for a good relationship also. As you get along in a relationship it is definite that you and your partner will change. Whether you are interacted in college, office, gym, club or restaurant, at first you always approach the other person with a positive mindset and very welcoming behavior. Subsequently , the personalities and attitude of both is revealed as the time goes by. Both partners slowly start knowing about the habits, lifestyle, friends and family of each other. In that process, many things might not appear up to mark as one expected or there might be some habits that both do not like each other. So, in these times the really interested and committed partners accepts the flaws or deficiencies of each other. Of course there is no one perfect in life, everyone have certain weak sides of their personalities. That doesn't mean that we should say that you re a cheater or you were a different person at start and now you have changed or its not working any more. The 'true lovers' will accept their partner with every good and bad they have.

Moreover, things also change as time goes by and we grow. Additionally, circumstances and situation does not remain same all the time, they change and their impact also reflects in a person's personality. So, in a healthy relationship the partners give the due space to each other to adjust and adopt. And also they adopt and accept the change in each other. I have asked multiple old couples who have been successfully together for 20, 30 or even 40 years, about the secret of their successful relationship and most of them answered the same that they adopted and accepted the change in their partner and loved them unconditionally whatever the situation was.

So, don't feel bored or overwhelmed as time progresses in your relationship. Love is a commitment, if you think its a feeling it cannot last long, because feelings disappears shortly. Love is commitment to love each other every day and spend spend good and bad times together. Its about sharing life, smiles, happiness, pain and sorrows. Its about having fun together and gearing up each other in difficult times. People usually quit when they do not share fun and pain together, stating that the 'spark is gone' from our relationship. Love does not goes this way. If you want to be loved forever, first you should love unconditionally. You want your partner to not give up on you, show them your love when you don't want to love and when they are in their low times and are hard to deal, definitely you will receive the same amount of love or even double.

Another most important thing in this regard is that be very careful in choosing your partner whether it is a relationship or a marriage. Do not be in relationship because you are alone, or every one else has a partner or someone is pressurizing you to be in a relationship. Its your life, and its a matter of heart, not everyone deserves it, relationship can make or break your life. So, be very careful and get the right person for relationship.

Once in relationship, be always committed and keep the warmth of relationship alive with love and attention. Always find time for yourself and your partner, and make them a priority in life. You will be happy and you will be fine.