Understanding Love

Hello, if you’re here reading my article, that means you need to hear something positive or you’re on a journey of self-discovery. I’m Nevin, and now I’m taking you on a beautiful journey.

First of all, I want you to know this: You are a valuable being, and you deserve the best in life. You may have experienced negative situations, or maybe you’ve been going through them for a long time. But you can transform this.

We are human, each of us a creation of love. Our fundamental desire in life is love and compassion. But sometimes, we are the ones who open the door to negativity. Unfortunately, we often sabotage our own self-worth, diminish ourselves, and shed tears over people or events that don’t deserve it.

Think about it: How much deep emotion can you truly feel for someone who causes you pain, devalues you, and manipulates your love? Could this be love addiction or emotional hunger? Do you constantly find yourself saying, “I always attract the wrong people”? Instead, I would ask myself, Did I choose the wrong person again?

Because in the end, we all live with our own choices. Yes, there are certain situations that are destined, and I don’t deny the exceptions. But most of the time, we make our own decisions.

Imagine a scale. On one side, there’s you. On the other, the person (or people) you’re with. Which side is heavier? Who is the one giving more in the relationship? No relationship is one-sided. There must be a balance.

If you disrupt the give-and-take balance in relationships, you will always attract the same type of people and experience the same negative cycles. The power to change this is in your hands.

Of course, I also went through similar experiences before I focused on personal development. I cried, I felt broken, and at times, I even had thoughts of hurting myself. But now, when I look back, I can only laugh at my past. I no longer feel anger towards it.

Because I realized something important: I was the one who allowed those people into my life. I was the one who gave them the power to manipulate me.

Now, I see them as walking manipulators 😉 But guess what? I don’t blame them anymore. Because I was the one who invited them into my reality. I welcomed them into my energy field.

So if I’ve faced problems in relationships, it was because of my own poor choices.

Yes, we all make mistakes. The important thing is to learn from them and not repeat them. If you keep making the same mistakes, it means you are approaching everything emotionally.

Especially when choosing a partner, ask yourself: How compatible are we really?

I don’t focus on how someone treats me I look at how they treat others. If they have a tendency to hurt, manipulate, or emotionally drain others, they will eventually do the same to me.

You cannot expect a stable relationship from someone whose life is full of chaos. People who thrive on chaos and drama will do nothing but drain your energy.

It’s time to stop letting emotions control your choices.

If you experienced childhood trauma, if you have love deprivation, you might be seeking love outside of yourself. But in doing so, you might be running from one storm into another.

Start by loving yourself first.

In fact, I want you to do something right now: Put your hand on your heart and apologize to yourself. Apologize to your heart, to your body, to your mind for all the unnecessary pain you’ve endured, for all the people and situations you let hurt you. Apologize to your eyes for all the tears they shed. Then promise yourself:

💖 I will love myself.

💖 I will protect my energy.

💖 I will only give my love to those who truly deserve it.

Because you are valuable. Never forget that.

Also, be mindful of your thoughts.

Think about it throughout your life, you have experienced so many good things. But why does your mind always focus on the negative? Our subconscious is wired to hold onto pain, but that doesn’t mean we have to keep feeding it.

One of the biggest mistakes we make is reinforcing negativity instead of focusing on the positive. Transforming your life starts with transforming your thoughts.

Please, choose to rewire your mind for positivity rather than negativity.

🌿 Life is beautiful if you know how to live it.