How to Release the Fear of Losing It All (and Trust Yourself Again)

It was 2:17 AM, and the only light in the room came from my laptop screen, casting a blueish glow on my tear-streaked face. I was staring at a spreadsheet, the numbers blurring together. A few months of lower-than-projected revenue. A client who had unexpectedly paused their contract. A whisper from the bank account that suddenly felt far too thin.

My chest was tight, a familiar vise of dread squeezing the air from my lungs. The thought, loud and looping, was: This is it. The house of cards is falling. You’re going to lose everything you’ve built.

In the darkness, the dream I had so passionately pursued this business, this creative life felt like a monument to my own arrogance. Who did I think I was, believing I could actually succeed?

If you’ve ever found yourself frozen in a similar 3 AM panic, heart pounding with the terror of imminent collapse, please know this: you are not alone. And more importantly, you are not your fear.

So many of the brilliant women I work with, the creators, the entrepreneurs, the visionaries carry this same silent burden. We are masters of building beautiful things, yet we harbor a secret ghost in the machinery: the deep-seated fear that it could all vanish in an instant.

This isn’t just a negative thought. This is a primal alarm bell, rooted in our nervous system’s ancient wiring. It’s the part of you that believes safety lies in scarcity, that if you just worry enough, you can control the outcome and prevent disaster.

But what if the very act of clenching so tightly is what keeps the flow of abundance at a distance?

The Anatomy of the Avalanche

That “losing it all” fear often feels like an avalanche for a reason. It’s not one thought, but a cascade:

1. The Trigger: A financial dip, a quiet month, a piece of critical feedback.

2. The Subconscious Story: “I knew it. I’m not good enough. This was all a mistake.”

3. The Nervous System Response: Your body floods with cortisol and adrenaline. Fight, flight, or freeze kicks in. Logic goes offline.

4. The Energetic Mismatch: From this place of panic and contraction, you are now energetically aligned with fear and lack which is the very opposite of the creative, receptive, and trusting energy required to attract solutions and opportunities.

You end up making decisions from a place of desperation, not inspiration. You say yes to clients who drain you. You create from a place of “I have to” instead of “I get to.” The magic that started your journey in the first place? It feels a million miles away.

I had to learn that the fortress I was building to protect myself was also the wall that kept the joy out.

Rewriting the Code: From Fear to Trust

Releasing this fear isn’t about slapping a positive affirmation over a gaping wound. It’s a gentle, layered process of rewiring. It’s about moving from a paradigm of control to a practice of trust.

1. Befriend Your Nervous System

Your body believes it’s protecting you. Thank you. When you feel the panic rising, don’t try to think your way out of it. Feel your way through it.

Place a hand on your heart. Feel your feet on the floor. Take three deep, slow breaths, lengthening the exhale. This simple act signals to your amygdala (your brain’s alarm system) that you are not, in fact, being chased by a saber-toothed tiger. You are safe in this present moment.

Safety is the foundation upon which abundance is built. You cannot feel creative and open when your body is braced for impact.

2. Dialogue with the Subconscious

Your subconscious mind is running old software programs installed in childhood or from past failures. It’s time to become a conscious programmer.

When the thought arises, “I’m going to lose everything,” don’t just believe it. Get curious.

Ask: Is that 100% true? What evidence do I have that I am capable and resilient? What is a more supportive, and equally plausible, story?

A powerful reframe could be: “This is a temporary circumstance. I have navigated challenges before, and I am resourceful enough to handle this. My security comes from my ability to create, and that can never be taken from me.”

3. Align Your Energy with Receiving

Energetic alignment is everything. You can’t shout “I am abundant!” from a vibrational basement of fear. The universe, God, Source whatever you call it responds to your embodied energy, not your words.

Practice feeling abundant now. Not when you hit the revenue goal, but today.

Where in your life do you already have abundance? In friendship? In love? In the beauty of a morning sunrise? Luxuriate in the feeling of that fullness. Drink your morning coffee with reverence. Take a walk and marvel at the sky. This isn’t spiritual bypassing; it’s a practical recalibration of your internal compass from lack to gratitude, which is the frequency of miracles.

As the spiritual teacher and author Deepak Chopra reminds us, “Inherent in every intention and desire is the mechanics for its fulfillment.” The desire to create a thriving, impactful business and life is already wired with the intelligence to make it happen. Your job is not to force it, but to align with it and remove the blocks chief among them, the fear of loss.

The Invitation to Trust Yourself

At the end of the day, releasing the fear of losing it all is the ultimate act of trust. Trust in yourself. Trust in your resilience. Trust in the unfolding of your unique path.

The spreadsheet doesn’t have the final say. The quiet month is not your verdict. You are the creator here. Your worth is not up for negotiation, and your capacity for reinvention is infinite.

That night at 2:17 AM, I finally closed the laptop. I put my hands on my heart and breathed until the tears stopped. I didn’t have the answers. But I made a choice to trust the woman who had the courage to start this journey in the first place. I chose to believe in her more than I believed in the fear.

And that small shift changed everything.

Your dream wasn’t planted in you by accident. It was placed in a heart more than capable of nurturing it to life. Release the grip. Soften into the trust. You are not losing it all; you are on the verge of finding the one thing that changes everything: an unshakable belief in the creator that you truly are.

If this piece resonated with you and you’re ready to move from fear to flow, I invite you to explore two pathways for deeper healing:

For a guided journey to release the deep emotional and energetic blocks to abundance, you can learn more about my Release the Pain Sessions on my website.

And if you’re ready to radically rewrite your money story and build your business on a foundation of self-worth, join me for the Delusional Creator Challenge. It’s where we turn self-doubt into unshakeable creative power, together.

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I'm currently doing something called a 33 Digital Abundance challenge where I post each day for 33 days, and use affirmations and mindset training to shift my identity to make a certain amount of money a month. I'm not revealing how much money I've decided to make, however, I will document my journey throughout this 33 day challenge.