What if My Twin Flame is a Runner?

A twin flame is a sacred soul relationship, it means that two partners share a soul signature. They are not half a soul, as some people describe, but rather a unique soul signature that is shared with one another. Just like two biological twins will have many similarities, but also traits, likes, dislikes, unique to each one.

A twin flame relationship is marked by a great deal of passion, familiarity, strong chemistry, and a feeling of having come home. Twin flames do not have to be romantic, but in this article, I am going to refer to romantic twin relationships.

What is a twin flame runner?

The twin flame union is a very soul and heart-based connection, it causes the heart to open as such. It can create a lot of emotions in both partners. This heart-opening can surface old wounds and that can freak some people out. Rather than staying around to talk through what they are experiencing, to engage in the process of healing, they run.

Running is likely a pattern they established long ago for dealing with emotions, or other difficult situations. People run in different ways. If all they need is space to sort themselves out and they will come back when they have, that is not a deal-breaker. Yet if they are the type that runs and keeps on running, this type is not interested in sorting themselves out, they only want to escape having to deal with emotions.

How do I know if my twin is a runner?

Your twin might actually leave the relationship or take a break. While others might run in less visible ways. Overworking, giving the silent treatment, using drugs or alcohol, cheating, or anything that gives them time away from the relationships either physically, emotionally, or mentally.

Having a break from a relationship, having one’s own space, or activities is healthy. It’s unhealthy when it is in an excessive amount, or when it is harmful such as in the case of alcohol, drugs, or cheating.

You may begin asking yourself if this person is truly your twin, which brings up the next topic.

False twin flame or wrong timing?

Sometimes, we have thought we found our twin, but it turns out to be a false twin. This can be incredibly confusing as they may have had many of the twin components. Two things can be happening here.

One, the person is truly not your twin, they are indeed a false twin. This may be a relationship that was helping you learn important lessons in preparation for your twin flame, so even if this is the case, it is not a loss! As long as you learn the lessons, and make adjustments (see the next section) you can still have a healthy and meaningful love relationship with someone else.

Two, the person is your twin but the timing is off. They have yet to leave another relationship or learn lessons they must before they are ready for union with you. They may be stuck in patterns and unable to move forward. Sometimes one twin shows up but the other person cannot break free of whatever is holding them back and they cannot show up in kind.

If you believe this applies to you, remember you showed up, and that means you are able to learn many of the lessons that your relationship with your twin was meant to teach you.

Your twin running, not being ready, and everything else that happened can still help you learn important lessons of forgiveness, tolerance, compassion, and wisdom. Even having connected with our twin briefly, can give a great deal of insight and opportunity for personal growth. Making you ready for a healthy relationship with someone who is ready!

Self Love is a pre-requisite to romantic love

Remember with all love relationships, self-love is the first step to having a healthy union. Your relationship with yourself, building self-awareness, self-care, and focusing on what is true for you so you can live authentically is vital to attracting and maintaining a healthy love relationship. Many people try to skip over these steps in hopes that “the one” will make them happy. While a good relationship can certainly make you happy, true self-awareness, and knowing oneself are key to living a happy life.

If you aren’t strong in your own identity, and where you are going, maintaining strong boundaries, and so on, then even with the right partner it’s an uphill battle. Self-love, self-awareness, self-care are the first steps, once these are established, you will be able to attract and keep a mutually loving and happy love relationship!