Our Queerness

I feel the Queer community isn’t really a community. I’ll explain myself a whole lot better than I am right now. The Queer community doesn’t feel like a community anymore to me thanks to a lot of things. We’re debating whether certain sexualities are valid or deserving of space.

They are but that’s beside the point.

Bisexuals vs pansexuals.

Most of the community hating on asexuality and everything that’s apart of it. Such as MOGAI. Which NO was not invented by a pedophile. It was invented by a minor who was a csa victim. But that’s a rant for another time.

Then there’s the whole fact that the community wants to drop the QT from the LGB. We’re allowing ourselves to be separated instead of working together as we should. Our whole pride parades were started by riots. A riot that was started by a black trans woman. And several other trans people who weren’t white. Yet somehow, we’ve let ourselves be pitted against each other. Why? Why are we allowing ourselves to fight amongst each other? To prove that we’re ‘Good Queers’? The good ones that’ll do whatever the straights or powers that be want? Dance for their approval. Show them that we’re worthy of keeping rights?

They won’t care.

They’re the ones taking your rights from you. Not your fellow queers. Rights are not like pie where if someone else has some then there’s not enough left. It’s because of those in charge deciding we’re not worthy of keeping them. Deciding that we need to be fixed to stay alive. To show how we’re acceptable enough in their eyes.

I don’t want to be ‘acceptable’ for those people. What I want is to feel safe within the community and not worry. To exist as myself and allow others to exist as themselves as well. Even if we’re ‘cringy’ or ‘weird’ or even if we don’t pass enough. Who gives a flying fuck if we don’t? Who makes the rules that we have to act like how those in charge see fit? We’re all human beings and we should all exist how we like. Dress how we like. Love how we freaking like.

Fighting each other does nothing to keep our entire community alive. It won’t keep our rights to marry safe. Our rights to medical freedom or our right to express ourselves as well. We need to band together to keep our rights. Like how we used to. I’m not outright calling for a riot. But I am calling for all of us to get together to freaking try to get along. To understand that there’s no ‘straights’ in disguise. And even if there are straight people within our community, let them be. Before anyone comes for me, I mean this as them being an ally rather than a spy. There are so many straight people that support us and stand with us. Like family members. Or they’re our partners. Hell, some trans people are straight. Some bisexual people are in ‘straight’ relationships.

Another issue the community has. Which is assuming that everyone with the opposite gender is just straight. But again, that’s for another time. If I can properly word it. My point is that the community needs to try.

We need to uplift each other. Not squabble over other people’s labels or that trans people don’t belong. They do. Just like you. We all belong to the Queer community. We wouldn’t all be here without each other. And division, degradation, as well as just simple lies will drag us all down. If we don’t stop all this bullshit that’s exactly what’s going to happen. So, either we band together, or we’ll all fall to pieces. Please think about this and try not to fight amongst each other.